My husband and I have a very loving relationship, and usually communication is one of our strong points. However, I really want to stop taking the birth control pill right now, and I don't know how to talk to him about the subject.
I am 30 years old and my husband is 31. We have been married for about 1 1/2 years, and dated for about five years before that. I have been using oral contraception. We are both working full time in good jobs. We had always planned on getting married, then buying a house, and then having children. Right now we are really happy with where we are renting, so we don't have any plans on moving. We prefer to stay where we are getting a great deal on rent and continue paying down our student loans before purchasing a home. I know if we waited five more years, all our debt would be paid off and we would both have large salary increases at work.
The problem is I really want children, and I feel like I'm not getting any younger. Sometimes I think maybe we can't afford children. But on the other hand, the more money my husband and I make the more we spend. So, I don't know that we'd ever be financially ready really. I also don't know that there would ever be a "right time" in my career path to have children.
I just don't want to feel like I am actively preventing getting pregnant anymore. I want it to happen when it's the right time, not by my own determination of when it would be best. I also don't want opportunity to pass us while we're waiting for the right time. Also, my husband is not Catholic, so he does not have the same beliefs regarding oral contraception. (I know the Catholic church does not approve, but I have been taking it anyways, because of how effective it has been at preventing pregnancy -- I know that's probably a whole other post)
What should I do? :shrug: