I don't know what to do; can you help?

I am in love with a girl who is not a christian. I beleive marriage in church as a sacrement is valid. I told her about that and she is not willing to accept christ. She is not interested in raising my children as catholics. I can’t accept her as my wife in this situation. I asked her to leave me if we can’t marry. She is telling me to continue our relationship without marriage. I don’t know what to do, Weather to leave her or be with her. I can’t hurt her because i really love her.


You owe her the truth. To continue with her so that she will feel good is a lie. You do not owe her good feelings. If you feel that you cannot do this, then it is your feelings that you are concerned about. You owe yourself the truth as well. The lie AWLAYS leads to disaster. You are in my prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.

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