I’ve seen a lot of posts over the past while of dilemmas where one spouse “doesn’t want more children” so they withhold sex of contracept or unilaterally decide to have a sterilisation etc.
To be honest I’m ticked off and sick of hearing people say that. My wife and I got married three years ago and we thought it’d all be no problem and there’d be babies all over the place in no time. But three years later we’re still waiting and praying for a baby. (And pursuing morally legit medical avenues).
Then you have people who either have a few kids and complain about them, or have “too many kids” and don’t want more. I get that there are legit reasons for NFP to avoid etc. But to be honest I’m all out of sympathy for these people. I mean, cry me a darn river. You have kids. It’s a great blessing. Spare a thought for the people who actually would love to have even ONE child. It seems to be the modern mantra, even within some Catholic circles, that babies are trouble and a burden. A bigger burden is waiting in hope every month that maybe this will be it and then comforting each other that it didn’t happen.
The reason it bothers me so much is that you hear it all around in the secular world. “I can’t wait til the summer break is over (to be free of my horrible children)” “My career is so important, I can’t have another child.” “Contraception has really freed women to pursue their dreams”.
All utter nonsense. Just very upsetting to see so many Catholics who can’t appreciate the blessing that they have.