I’ve talked about my issues before:
and I’m still as unsure as I was before about our marriage. Actually - he basically told me it is over for him and that he’s only hanging around for the children. Unfortunately he has mean outbusrts towards me which he will stop for a while to be “civil” but then after a few weeks he’ll start up again. He throws the f-bomb around like mad when he gets that way. The kids are not learning what a good relationship is, he disregards the house rules for the kids (ie no violence, limiting video games for the kids, limiting TV, etc. )
In other ways he’s really great. He’s an awesome cook, he is fun with the kids, he’s starting to help out around the house more since he lost his job and took on a part time job,
Things would in reality be really great if he treated me nicely - esp in front of the kids. But here’s the big issue: He does not want any more children. period. I already said I cannot take the “pill” or do any other form of birth control as per the church. I told him I CAN however work with him and do the NFP to avoid getting pregnant. That is not good enough. He want’s 110% assurance we won’t get pregnant (Understandable since 2 of our children have severe medical issues. I understand his fears, yet I’m not going to live in Mortal sin either.) Anyway - he said because of this issue the marriage is over and unfixable.
I don’t like the thought of a separation, When I considered it, it didn’t feel “right”. I’ve so far decided to stay in a loveless marriage as long as he can be civil towards me. But again like I said he’s civil for a while until I “upset” him. And anytime I want to enforce the rules with the kids, or ask him to limit the violence on TV or limit video games - those are enough to set him off. But when he stops the attitude things are livable again. I’ve talked to a priest but he didn’t really offer me much advice.
Not sure what to do since even ending a marriage is sinful