There is this guy at work. We get along most of the time as co-workers even though deep down he is the last guy I would choose to work with if I could have my way. I have learnt to bite my tongue a lot and he usually bugs other people so I pretend I don’t hear a thing he says.
I find he can be very tasteless at times. We are both on contract as well as another guy. Once it is over they will make one of us permanent and let the other 2 go. He use to make jokes about which one of us will be kept. After politely asking him not to do that, I had to become much more firm in telling him to get my message across.
He does things that I consider very unethical. I keep my thoughts. to myself since I am not the moral police of the office. However, I try not to spend too much time around him since I feel a lot of pressure to do immoral things. And I don’t care for the temptation.
Well, he spends most of his social time with this one girl. This girl will be on holidays for the next little while so he has been talking to me more. And I am feeling the pressure to do immoral things at work and I am feeling pressure to divulge things I think are best kept private. And I was getting kind of mad because today, I felt like I caved and told him more than I was comfortable telling him. So I tried to tell him I didn’t wanted to participate in such conversations. He though I was joking and made a remark at my expense. I can’t remember what he said but I told him ‘jokes at my expense are not funny’. To which he replied ‘You got to laugh in life’. I felt that was a manipulative way of excusing his behaviour.
My concern is his friend will be away all next week and he will bug me more and I will fall for it again. And anytime I set a boundary, he thinks I am joking and I go off tangent and the boundary never gets set.p
I just hope that if he does start an inappropriate conversation, I will have the strength to immediately walk away and not fall for it