The saying that I hate is ‘follow your heart’.
First of all, I don’t think that it has a logical meaning despite the fact that it is constantly being invoked as a cure all for every one’s problems. Does it mean follow your emotions? Our emotions change and shift constantly.
Does it mean follow your own inclinations? That is how I see this used most. So, if a man feels less love for his current wife, he can leave her for a younger woman who makes him feel good because his heart told him to. I’ve actually seen adultery justified because the person was 'following their heart."
Does it mean do what is best for you regardless of the pain that it causes others? This is the view that I see most on tv and the movies. Someone breaks all tradition to do or be with who they want. Of course they end up happy and their family ends up learning a valuable lesson. Of course that is make believe. In real life, what you do impacts your friends and family. I know someone in my family who is very stubbornly going back into an abusive marriage with a cheating spouse. Their excuse is that 'they can’t help who they love and its their life anyway." Um…no it isn’t just your life. Sorry to break that myth. But we don’t live in a vacuum. My relations choice will cause considerable pain, worry and stress as we wait for this family member to be killed by their spouse.:banghead:
I am not saying to never take your emotions into account but the current way this saying is used makes it sound like it is some magic charm. If you just follow your heart you will find true happiness. That isn’t true. It also seems selfish because basically the individual’s happiness matters more then anyone else’s.