I was actually about to post advice to a poster involved with a married man, and then stopped because I felt like a hypocrite. But then I wasn't sure if I was. I don't feel comfortable posting details, and really, I know the moral issues involved here. But knowing something doesn't make feelings go away suddenly.
So this is my situation. I am friends with a man I met at work, I've been friends with him for about two years. He befriended me when I first started working there, and has given me a lot of helpful advice about work, listened patiently to a lot of "girl talk" issues about my personal life, etc. He has a very sweet wife who's been very nice to me too. They also have an adorable son who is a toddler. They are also Catholic, and indeed meeting this man was one of the catalysts for me to get more interested in Catholicism and throw off some of my prior prejudices.
After being casual friends with him for about half a year, there was an incident in which he helped me out a lot, and ever since this I have had a crush on him, indeed have come to find him very attractive, and I even admit that at times I have impure thoughts about him. I have tried to get over this, I even tried dating someone else but that didn't take away those feelings for this man.
I know I am at the very least in an occasion for sin, if I'm not there already. I don't think this man has any idea how I feel, he has even compared me to a sister at one point. But then there have been times that he has confided marital issues to me, complaining about his wife, once he even started discussing their sex life and obviously this made me feel very uncomfortable. So I am wondering if perhaps I am presenting an occasion of sin for him as well.
Now, he is planning on moving to another state along with his family. Part of me feels this is really a sign, a providential one that I really should let him go and get on with my life. But a part of me still wants to keep in touch with him. I know that either way, I will miss him tremendously.
I know what the right thing to do is, but it's going to be hard. Any idea of what I should do to get over this man?