Last Friday I received Confirmation at my local parish. I have been attending every week since June. I was raised Catholic but my parents divorced when I was 14. I no longer went to CCD, nor did I have any desire at that age. My wife and I married in a Methodist church when we were 19, and left the country. (I was in the U.S. Navy).
We began attending the Protestant chapel when our first child came along, about 4 years later. My wife was not catholic, and I didn’t care to be then.
To make a long, long story short, we became very involved for 14 years in two differnet Non-denominational churches. (One for 8 years, then another for 6). We only left the first one because of a geographical move. As we had two more children, we were grounding them in Christianity, or so I thought. One sunday the preacher preached to us that a young lady who had just come to the altar didn’t need to confess her sins, because God already knew everything she had done, she just needed to pray the sinner’s prayer and she was now saved! It struck me as wrong, and began my journey that landed me back in the Catholic Church about 5 years ago. I didn’t take that very seriously though until this past summer. I decided that I couldn’t let my wife’s objections to the Catholic church keep me away anymore. I told her I would go with her to whatever church she wanted, but she would have to initiate it. I would be attending Mass each week. Well…
I decided to go ahead with my confirmation and told her so a month or two ago. Finally, last thursday, I told her I would be getting confirmed Friday morning, just to let her know. I didn’t invite her because I know how upset she gets. Well, Friday morning, as I was getting ready, she got our two youngest up and ready and we all went. Sounds like a happy ending, but I could tell she felt very conflicted about being there. Later in the day, she said I had taken away her very foundation of our family life, which was attending church together. I had asked her to study with me a few years ago when I was searching, but she refused. I hope that someday she can accept the Catholic faith, but due to some of my in-laws ideas about Catholics, I don’t think that she can. She hasn’t told her mom about my going to Mass or confirmation.
It surprised me to find out that 26 years of marriage is shaken so much. I don’t fear a rupture in our marriage, but I know it makes my wife so sad. My 13 year old daughter is going with me, and she is involved in the middle school youth group and will be having first communion next fall. This is very difficult for her also, but it was my daughter’s choice. It’s not like we were involved in another church youth group or anything, and she wanted to go.
Anyway, I just hope for your prayers. I pray the rosary each day, and I lift my wife up in prayer. Please do the same.