I have temptations


#1

… mainly to look at pornography. I mean, I don’t get turned on by it, like I used to, but I just want to look at it just because and have fun with myself just because.

Does anybody know how I can stop this? I know I must be upsetting God by choosing sin over Him, and I know I should feel contrite… What can I do to deepen and strengthen my relationship with the good Lord?


#2

[quote="JDGaney, post:1, topic:319065"]
... mainly to look at pornography. I mean, I don't get turned on by it, like I used to, but I just want to look at it just because and have fun with myself just because.

Does anybody know how I can stop this? I know I must be upsetting God by choosing sin over Him, and I know I should feel contrite... What can I do to deepen and strengthen my relationship with the good Lord?

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I suggest the total consecration to Mary given by St. Louis de Montfort. Holy charity is the root of holy chastity & devotion to our Blessed Mother will always bring you closer to her Son.

With the feast of St. Joseph only two days away, you might also consider a simple consecration to him as well. An old practice is wearing the cord of St. Joseph, a simple cord blessed by a priest and worn around the middle under clothing.

Praying among the Holy Family renders sin itself uninteresting.


#3

[quote="JDGaney, post:1, topic:319065"]
... mainly to look at pornography. I mean, I don't get turned on by it, like I used to, but I just want to look at it just because and have fun with myself just because.

Does anybody know how I can stop this? I know I must be upsetting God by choosing sin over Him, and I know I should feel contrite... What can I do to deepen and strengthen my relationship with the good Lord?

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Pray the Rosary daily. It helped me.


#4

Thomas à kempis : "the perfect victory is to triumph over oneself"

Prayer.
Resolve and fortitude.
Discipline.


#5

[quote="JDGaney, post:1, topic:319065"]
... mainly to look at pornography. ..

Does anybody know how I can stop this? I know I must be upsetting God by choosing sin over Him, and I know I should feel contrite... What can I do to deepen and strengthen my relationship with the good Lord?

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Check out the help Steve Wood has to offer. This page is filled with links to help you.
familylifecenter.net/strugglewithporn.asp

Treating Sexual and Pornographic Addictions
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What is Pornography Doing to Fathers and Their Families?
familylifecenter.net/article.asp?artId=234
by Steve Wood
The venom of Internet Pornography is slowly killing the spiritual life of millions of Christian fathers. At every Catholic men's conference I have spoken at over the past four years, I have encountered men addicted to Internet pornography. Men from every region of North America, who attend Mass every Sunday, are silently addicted to pornography.

Screwtape's Strategies and Pornography
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Alias Screwtape
My Dear Wormwood:
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Steve Wood's book Breaking Free 12 Steps to Sexual Purity for Men
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Organizations and Resources dealing with Pornography
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Pure Mind Scripture Computer Program
familylifecenter.net/article.asp?artId=319

St. Joseph's Freedom Groups for Men Seeking Sexual Purity
dads.org/mens-groups.asp

St. Joseph's "Mini" Freedom Groups
dads.org/mens-MiniFreedomGroups.asp

10 Steps to Start a St. Joseph’s Freedom Group
dads.org/mens-10StepsFreedomGroups.asp


#6

It is hard I know to give up such temptations, but if you try to think about Christ when you sit down to take a look. Picture Jesus just before He died on the cross. The pain He suffered for you, He was badly beaten. Picture them laying Jesus on the cross and taking His hand and driving in that first nail, the second and now the third going through His feet, then dying on the cross for our sins. I pray that after you do this you will get up and go to your private place and pray to Him for the strength to stop watching.


#7

Sometimes it helps to meditate on Christ’s Passion. Tradition says that He suffered the scourging at the pillar for the sins of our flesh, and the crown of thorns for the sins of our thoughts. If you think about what He suffered in advance for your sins, it might help you in your quest to stop.


#8


#9

It's a very common sin ....any priest will tell you.

Our society is so highly sexed and offers us ways to tap into lust on tv, movies, internet, our phones secretly and has become a breeding ground perfect for someone to fall into these types of sins and persist in them until they become habit forming and leaving the victim wondering "what the heck happend! I'm in chains!"

Know its a very common sin....and a very EASY sin to fall into slavery for because it's so connected with our physical bodies workings.

You fall into it over and over because a few reasons:

  1. It may take some time.....but if you are serious, you should see the time range between sins getting farther apart.

2.you have not made a sincere act of willing to change your life.......meaning u are willing to maintain some changes:

a, staying away from pornographic sources ( you know where they are ! ....if that means putting content blockers on tv or internet....or even being willing to get rid of them altogether....then that's what it will take or you should not be willing to go to confession until you are willing to do so.

  1. You are probably supressing your pent up energy and feelings and desires and not redeeming them. You need to understand why your body acts the way it does. I suggest looking into "Theology of the body" .....there is a reason God made us the way He did and why we have the desires we do! The devil has twisted a beautiful thing within you! Here's the good news......if you permit God to untwist it..........you can focus and direct this great power within you and your spirituality will soar! You will have an amazing spiritual growth spurt fighting and overcoming this!

christopherwest.com/

Christopher west teaches about theology of the body....HES AWSOME! This website has LOADS of info on it. There is a 20$ DVD called "winning the battle for sexual purity" BUY IT! I've also found a 10 CD set breaking down the popes teaching on theology of the body for like 3$......it's amazing.... if its something that interests you....I suggest finding it.

Some suggestions:

a GOOD confession....one at which you are willing to rework your entire life. When you get home...you get rid of everything that tempts you (because this sin begins at the level of thought).

This is going to sound silly ...but trust me. How you live your daily life needs to change: If you have a messy room/ home............clean and organize it, start keeping track of appointments on a planner, plan out your day and plan a day in which you can keep busy (lazy, sloppy and unorganized life sets u up to fall especially when you have lots of time on your hands ) .

Exercise! believe it or not..........exercise burns off lots of our pent up energies

Lastly........start to practice fasting. If you can begin to permit your will to tell the body what to do...........your will will get stronger and your body will listen to you more.

If you can start studying theology of the body so you understand why we have the urges and what they mean....the untwisting can begin (along with the sacraments and DAILY praying about this) and use my above suggestions.... I can gurantee results.

Remember this is going to be a process...AND it's a process that will allow you to come closer to God through all of it. Every day at the begining of your day say a little prayer asking God to give you strength and to conqure your temptations and to not treat his daughters in such a demeaning way and to help purify your heart. And thank him every night and rededicate your entire body , and feelings, thoughts to His service.

Oh, also..........when temptations come..... try saying a prayer like this: "Lord I offer this temptation to you and I'm willing to suffer it in atonement for my sins and for the conversion of all my brothers and sister caught in this trap of slavery "

lol, its spiritual jujitsu........you're taking the devils temptation and causing him to lose souls!

Good luck to you . If you need to talk...don't hesitate!


#10

[quote="MichaelHowling, post:9, topic:319065"]
It's a very common sin ....any priest will tell you.

Our society is so highly sexed and offers us ways to tap into lust on tv, movies, internet, our phones secretly and has become a breeding ground perfect for someone to fall into these types of sins and persist in them until they become habit forming and leaving the victim wondering "what the heck happend! I'm in chains!"

Know its a very common sin....and a very EASY sin to fall into slavery for because it's so connected with our physical bodies workings.

You fall into it over and over because a few reasons:

  1. It may take some time.....but if you are serious, you should see the time range between sins getting farther apart.

2.you have not made a sincere act of willing to change your life.......meaning u are willing to maintain some changes:

a, staying away from pornographic sources ( you know where they are ! ....if that means putting content blockers on tv or internet....or even being willing to get rid of them altogether....then that's what it will take or you should not be willing to go to confession until you are willing to do so.

  1. You are probably supressing your pent up energy and feelings and desires and not redeeming them. You need to understand why your body acts the way it does. I suggest looking into "Theology of the body" .....there is a reason God made us the way He did and why we have the desires we do! The devil has twisted a beautiful thing within you! Here's the good news......if you permit God to untwist it..........you can focus and direct this great power within you and your spirituality will soar! You will have an amazing spiritual growth spurt fighting and overcoming this!

christopherwest.com/

Christopher west teaches about theology of the body....HES AWSOME! This website has LOADS of info on it. There is a 20$ DVD called "winning the battle for sexual purity" BUY IT! I've also found a 10 CD set breaking down the popes teaching on theology of the body for like 3$......it's amazing.... if its something that interests you....I suggest finding it.

Some suggestions:

a GOOD confession....one at which you are willing to rework your entire life. When you get home...you get rid of everything that tempts you (because this sin begins at the level of thought).

This is going to sound silly ...but trust me. How you live your daily life needs to change: If you have a messy room/ home............clean and organize it, start keeping track of appointments on a planner, plan out your day and plan a day in which you can keep busy (lazy, sloppy and unorganized life sets u up to fall especially when you have lots of time on your hands ) .

Exercise! believe it or not..........exercise burns off lots of our pent up energies

Lastly........start to practice fasting. If you can begin to permit your will to tell the body what to do...........your will will get stronger and your body will listen to you more.

If you can start studying theology of the body so you understand why we have the urges and what they mean....the untwisting can begin (along with the sacraments and DAILY praying about this) and use my above suggestions.... I can gurantee results.

Remember this is going to be a process...AND it's a process that will allow you to come closer to God through all of it. Every day at the begining of your day say a little prayer asking God to give you strength and to conqure your temptations and to not treat his daughters in such a demeaning way and to help purify your heart. And thank him every night and rededicate your entire body , and feelings, thoughts to His service.

Oh, also..........when temptations come..... try saying a prayer like this: "Lord I offer this temptation to you and I'm willing to suffer it in atonement for my sins and for the conversion of all my brothers and sister caught in this trap of slavery "

lol, its spiritual jujitsu........you're taking the devils temptation and causing him to lose souls!

Good luck to you . If you need to talk...don't hesitate!

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Wow, great post! Thank you for this! I'm going to print this out. Although I don't struggle with porn, this can apply to so many other things as well:)


#11

Your welcome


#12

Why don't you put parental controls on your computer accounts that would block nudity? One that would have a password someone else in your family would know but not you?


#13

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