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When people make me mad, I stay mad at them, sometimes for years on end. This happens both with people I encounter online and in person. Whether it's a political discussion, or religious discussion, or some other discussion, if someone makes me upset, I just can't get over it. Sometimes I will forget about it for a while, but I'll eventually start to remember it, and I'll become angry and frustrated all over again.
There are still people I'm mad at way back from high school. I wish I could get over it, but it's like something inside isn't letting me. Just thinking about them makes me angry.
Also, I have trouble forgiving myself. If I make mistakes (on just about anything) I get very frustrated with myself. I put myself down, then I become obsessed with the mistake, and obsessed with correcting what I did wrong (even if it is impossible to fix).
It feels like I'm becoming an angry person. It's effecting my everyday life, and I just don't know what to do anymore. How can I learn to just forgive and forget? Has anyone else felt like this before?
(And this is my first post here. Hello :) Responses are appreciated )
Welcome to CAF my friend.
I used to be alot like you, and to tell you truth, I still can be. It's a struggle with my nature. I had a miserable 4 years of high school, by far the worst part of my life-and I take politics real personal, so sometimes I do hold a grudge and get real angry. toward people. I've done that without ever being called an angry person, and I don't think any of my friends would call me that-but it is a struggle with myself.
The best thing to do is to keep busy, the busier you are, the less you time you have to think about things like that. (Hard work solves alot of stuff!)
Make a choice to be happy. Happiness can be, and in some ways is, a choice. So many people seem to love wallowing in the gloom, bringing everybody down with them, or something along those lines. It makes them feel "hip" or something. Realize that with so many people depressed/cranky, it makes it easy to fall into that habit. Be yourself, and be happy. Say, "I will make it a point for people to say about me, 'there goes the nicest/happiest guy I've ever met.'" Don't be afraid if people call you phony. That's there own problem.
Find a sport. Release that energy of anger into something constructive. Years ago, back some schools would catch two boys fighting in class. They'd break it up, and tell them to met a few weeks later in the boxing ring, so it could be controlled. The schools had it right-young men need an outlet for their testosterone. Now a days, they don't know what to do with it so they emulate Eminem, play endless video games-that rubbish.