From a Catholic perspective, is it ok to just not want to get married?
I am a 30 year old woman. I have had a couple of relationships. I am attracted to men. I’m happy and not going through any particular issues. I do not think I am called to the religious life, or to any form of consecrated life. I am very dedicated to my work, but enjoy a lot of things in life - friends, socialising.
I am currently having spiritual direction, which is a great gift which I am very grateful for. My SD keeps saying I should be open to marriage. The fact is, I just don’t want to get married. I am perfectly happy and I grew up in an environment where I knew a lot of successful women who were not married (a number of the teachers in my school, child carers, family friends). I really think I am receiving the fullness of the Christian life right now and I actually have not put myself in a position where I would find a spouse for a few years. I don’t think anything is lacking in my life.
Much of the secular media can now tolerate my position. I want to know if this is “ok” as a Catholic, to just say, "no, I’m happy and I have no intention of getting married, and no, I don’t even think I am ‘open’ to it, because I have made my decision. I am getting guilty thoughts that this is somehow self-willed or sentimental. It kind of stresses me out when my SD keeps correcting me to be open to marriage and I’m worried it is pride or this could be a lack of peaceful trust in the Lord.