I keep putting off confession

I haven’t been to confession in a year or probably longer. I have a long list of things I need and want to confess, and I don’t know how long it will last. I would like to make an appointment with a priest. Has anyone had a long confession?? I am worried that It might be too long, and I know a lot of things I probably have repeated.

I was away for a while and made an appointment. I didn’t clock it, but it was certainly longer than my confessions since then. Don’t worry about it being too long though. Hearing confessions is part of a priest’s job and if you have things to confess, you should confess them and he’ll be willing to hear them.

If you’re worried about it being too long, make a private appointment.

Priests have Confession by appointment all the time. No big deal. Just call up the office and let him know.

Speaking of long confessions I wish someone tipped me off long ago. We had a nice priest and I would spend quite a bit of time talking to him. I’d tell him my sins, but we’d discuss everything else as well. Why my husband saved piles of newspapers and wouldn’t get rid of them; the fact that he liked to stop off after work, coming home late to supper, etc. We had a good rapport.

The only one who said anything was my husband. He said “I don’t know what you find to talk to him about.” I said, “Oh, you would be surprised.”

I tried, honestly I did, but my husband saved his papers anyway and continued to go to the pub after work.

My confessions did not help solve my husband’s problems.

But they helped me in dealing with it.

I used to make long confessions, but now I realize they don’t need to be long. I deliberately keep them short, not getting into too many details of each sin unless asked. I go with a list.

I say, “X sin…x numbers of times”(approximately).

It is only the enemy of our souls that encourage us to put off confession, Like others have mentioned, call and make an appointment -never delay!!! Do it now!
My love in Christ,

I’ve had a confession that took around 1 hour. I go to confession pretty much every week. But I fell in the trap of scrupulosity, that made a confession take so long. Make an apointement.

This. Don’t delay. Your priest will guide you. It’s Advent. Get that dust off your soul for the Christ Child. Prepare the way of the Lord.

Call the rectory and ask the priest when it might be convenient for him to hear your confession, making sure to specify that you haven’t been in awhile and it might take some time. The priest almost certainly won’t mind hearing a longer confession: the issue comes when there is a long line of people at a regularly scheduled time and someone is trying to unburden themselves of a decade of sin. Wonderful that they’re at confession, but they really need to make an appointment.

Don’t delay and don’t stress about this. This is a very common occurrence for priests. He almost certainly won’t bat an eye. He’s also not going to judge you for having been away for awhile. Don’t let procrastination or nervousness keep you from the sacraments.

By the way, just a friendly suggestion: I get the sense from your post that you might be a little on the scrupulous side (you seem worried about confessing stuff you’ve already confessed, etc) Keep in mind that the important thing about confession is to go there as a penitent and do the best you can. It’s not some kind of “gotcha” game where God is trying to trip you up or get you on a technicality. If you genuinely do the best you can, you’re good to go. That’s all God asks of us. Maybe talk to the priest about scrupulosity a bit and see if it rings true.

Just make an appoint…do not delay…

Let us remember Jesus of Nazareth is The Lamb and the Good Shepherd …

"Jesus is called the Lamb: He is the Lamb who takes away the sin of the world. Someone might think: but how can a lamb, which is so weak, a weak little lamb, how can it take away so many sins, so much wickedness? With Love. With his meekness. Jesus never ceased being a lamb: meek, good, full of love, close to the little ones, close to the poor. He was there, among the people, healing everyone, teaching, praying. Jesus, so weak, like a lamb. However, he had the strength to take all our sins upon himself, all of them.

“But, Father, you don’t know my life: I have a sin that…, I can’t even carry it with a truck…”.

Many times, when we examine our conscience, we find some there that are truly bad! But he carries them. He came for this: to forgive, to make peace in the world, but first in the heart. Perhaps each one of us feels troubled in his heart, perhaps he experiences darkness in his heart, perhaps he feels a little sad over a fault… He has come to take away all of this, He gives us peace, he forgives everything. “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away sin”: he takes away sin, it’s root and all! This is salvation Jesus brings about by his love and his meekness. And in listening to what John the Baptist says, who bears witness to Jesus as the Saviour, our confidence in Jesus should grow. Many times we trust a doctor: it is good, because the doctor is there to cure us; we trust in a person: brothers and sisters can help us. It is good to have this human trust among ourselves. But we forget about trust in the Lord: this is the key to success in life. Trust in the Lord, let us trust in the Lord! “Lord, look at my life: I’m in the dark, I have this struggle, I have this sin…”; everything we have: “Look at this: I trust in you!”. And this is a risk we must take: to trust in Him, and He never disappoints."

~Pope Francis


"Jesus is the “Good Shepherd” who goes in search of lost sheep, who knows his sheep and lays down his life for them (cf. Mt 18:12-14; Lk 15:4-7; Jn 10:2-4, 11-18). He is the way, the right path that leads us to life (cf. Jn 14:6), the light that illuminates the dark valley and overcomes all our fears (cf. Jn 1:9; 8:12; 9:5; 12:46).

He is the generous host who welcomes us and rescues us from our enemies, preparing for us the table of his body and his blood (cf. Mt 26:26-29; Mk 14:22-25); Lk 22:19-20) and the definitive table of the messianic banquet in Heaven (cf. Lk 14:15ff; Rev 3:20; 19:9). He is the Royal Shepherd, king in docility and in forgiveness, enthroned on the glorious wood of the cross (cf. Jn 3:13-15; 12:32; 17:4-5)."

~Pope Benedict XVI


"I invite all Christians, everywhere, at this very moment, to a renewed personal encounter with Jesus Christ, or at least an openness to letting him encounter them; I ask all of you to do this unfailingly each day. No one should think that this invitation is not meant for him or her, since “no one is excluded from the joy brought by the Lord”.[1] The Lord does not disappoint those who take this risk; whenever we take a step towards Jesus, we come to realize that he is already there, waiting for us with open arms.

Now is the time to say to Jesus: “Lord, I have let myself be deceived; in a thousand ways I have shunned your love, yet here I am once more, to renew my covenant with you. I need you. Save me once again, Lord, take me once more into your redeeming embrace”. How good it feels to come back to him whenever we are lost!

Let me say this once more: God never tires of forgiving us; we are the ones who tire of seeking his mercy.

Christ, who told us to forgive one another “seventy times seven” (Mt 18:22) has given us his example: he has forgiven us seventy times seven. Time and time again he bears us on his shoulders.

No one can strip us of the dignity bestowed upon us by this boundless and unfailing love. With a tenderness which never disappoints, but is always capable of restoring our joy, he makes it possible for us to lift up our heads and to start anew. Let us not flee from the resurrection of Jesus, let us never give up, come what will. May nothing inspire more than his life, which impels us onwards!"

~ Pope Francis



Do not spiritually procrastinate; just do it.

It won’t be an issue. If you like doing face to face confessions, make an appointment. But if you go behind a kneeler, don’t worry… Just go. :slight_smile:

God Bless

Be mindful of a long confession.

Once the priest came to the part of the building where the confessionals were, and I was the only person there. When it came time to counsel, I pretty much heard the priest’s take on the entire Gospel of John! :eek: He was taking his time, I’ll give him that. I was in there for at least 25-30 minutes. After I stepped out, there were a dozen Catholics looking cross at me for taking so long!

Then again, I know of another priest who, NO MATTER WHAT you confess, he offers
no counsel and requires just a few Hail Marys and nothing more. I knew a priest from New York who talked so fast (I live in the South) I couldn’t keep track of what he was saying! :eek:

The priest will be delighted that you have come to confession. Be at peace.

BTW - this is another reason why it’s good to go to confession regulary. I personally average going to confession 1-2 times per month

Thank you all!! Yes, it is so much easier going to confession when you haven’t waited so long because now I have a lot more to confess!

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