Long story short, my niece (21) moved in 6 months ago. She thinks she has the most wonderful BF in the world, who is a liar, BS artist, and just likes to stir the pot on FB(we are not friends with him, but he tags her in the post, and we have removed her from the newsfeed, but that just brings other family and friends asking what is going on).The only things we have asked of her is to go to school (college), be in by curfew, clean up after herself, and tell the truth and respect us.
It all came to a head tonight, we had a talk with her yesterday about we don’t feel she is happy, and she is more then welcome to leave. She promised this, that and the other thing, so I told her that I am just about at the end of my rope and consider this a warning.
So tonight her BF who post things on FB to try to taunt people because he won’t meet them face to face. Started his usual stuff because of an incident on Sat where she was drinking, and the police and fire department were called because of the fire they had going was so big they thought the house was on fire. We have also mailed him letters to his house asking to meet with him, he declines. I should also mention that she has lied to use several times in the past 6 weeks, with each week getting worse.
So after tonight’s FB post hubby and I look at each other and finally said enough. While we love her dearly, and know this guy is jerk, we just can put up with the behavior any more, just to stressful for us. So when she came home tonight, I politely asked her to see her house key, she gave me a strange look. I then gave her back the empty ring and said call your BF he wins, he is now 100 % responsible for you. You will be out at 10:00 am when I have to leave for the Drs. Told her that we loved her dearly, but can no longer take the disrespect, and mistrust. That she will always be welcomed in our home when we are there, but just can’t live with her anymore.
I then can’t believe that she tried to say that she didn’t do things. I then informed her that is just another affirmation of her lying because I printed off the post before you deleted them. I then informed her Mother what I did via text, and her grandmother show she is visiting for the next couple of days. I did tell her that she could keep her stuff in storage until she found a place, and that since BF family loves you so much, and they live in a 4 br house that they should have no problem taking her in, and you and BF can live happily ever after.
Like I said I know I did the right thing, but I feel bad, because before this BF she was no problem and was a joy to be around. Sometimes it stinks being an adult… On one note, I prayed and prayed on this and the only thing that coming into my mind is you don’t need to put up with this, she is a grown adult and needs to learn about life.
Thanks for the Listen,
Hope-n-Happiness for all
She came to our house after she go kicked out of her mother’s house for mouthing off, though the mother has wanted her back for a while, because she always borrows money from her.