I know jealousy is a sin, but i'm jealous of women and married men

hi
i try to be a good catholic, however, i’m failing and it’s all because of my sex drive, i’m single and i’m constantly masturbating or even watching porn, everything would be easier if i was a woman or a married man. I don’t know how to control this urges. I attend mass, I read the Bible, I fast, however, i always end up sinning. What should I do? i feel like such a hypocrite.
thank you for your precious time.

I am jealous of the single guy…lol

With joking aside, it can be very tough when dealing was self pleasure. It often controls our daily lives and we can easily fall victim to the desires. Remember that we are not perfect and nor does God expect that from us. That is why we have the Sacraments! However, we should strive to be as much like Christ as we can be.

Getting married will not “fix” your self pleasure problem. I thought the same when I was single. “If I could just get married and have an outlet then I would not have to do this kind of thing.” Well into my marriage I was still doing it and I actually did it more. :shrug:

I found out I had an issue with it and was addicted to and sought help. I am not saying that everyone who masturbates is an addict, but the chances are high if one cannot stop and they fell it is overtaking their life.

Research SA or SAA online and speak with the pastor of your parish about maybe getting some help to overcome this issue and find some kind of serenity. Trust in our Father and the Holy Church to always kind you in the right direction. Left up to our own will, we often go do the wrong path.

My prayers and thoughts are with you. I hope you find peace and relief soon. It can be a major burden to carry and I pray that God will take away your suffering by offering up mine.

Thank you Mr. aidanbradypop for your reply, your advice and your prayers for me. It’s difficult for me to talk about this issue with my pastor because i’m very shy… every week i confess this sin and is very difficult for me even though the priest doesn’t see my face… now, talking face to face with him about this issue would be so difficult for me.

Do it in the confessional. You’re speaking to Christ through the priest. They hear it all the time. :thumbsup:

i only know one was to pray that actually works-- and that is praying in tongues-- because it mortifies the flesh-- like mortar in concrete-- one of my teachers == wrote a book called walking in the spirit–and he was peaching how to pray in the spirit (jud1;19) for eight hours a day-- find a catholic charismatic group and study the course "they have to offer

this is why saint paul said “i pray in tongues more than you all”

Women struggle with this too.

When I was a teen I remember reading something that suggested that people who struggle with impurity ought to start each day with part of a rosary. Over time, either the prayers will stop or the sin will stop, but they can’t exist long together.

Uh…it’s not any easier. Just FYI.

What gives you the idea that it’s easier for married men?

Any solution to conquering sin that involves “if only I had X” is the work of the Devil. God wants every person to be chaste, regardless of state in life. If you don’t conquer the sin as a single man, all you’ll be is a married man addicted to masturbation and porn.

Methinks St John Vianney said something to that effect.

Well, some wise people came up with the statement, “Progress, not perfection.” I finally quit biting my nails by doing it one nail at a time. I also used it to quit some much more damaging things!

Perhaps if you try to get better at resisting the temptation instead of trying to be perfect, you will begin to win the battle more often than you lose it, and eventually losing will become rare, and then your resistance will be so strong that you find yourself able to live without it.

Funny, I just quoted this in another post!

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let all men know your forbearance. The Lord is at hand. Have no anxiety about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will keep your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Php 4:4-8

Praying for you and all who fall victim to this sin,

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