[quote=uofl19] I know I need to go to confession but before I tell you what I’m doing I need to say I’m findoing out a lot of Catholics are doing the same thing and don’t feel the least bit guilty, plus my mother and many other Catholics that are older say aaahhhh don’t worry about it everyone does that now, it ain’t like the old days.
Yes, those on the path to hell like lots of company so they try to convince you it’s OK to sin. Don’t listen to them. It doesn’t matter if “everyone is doing it”… it’s still wrong.
[quote=uofl19] My wife and I just had our 1st baby 3 months ago and we love him and love being new parents.
[quote=uofl19] However, with the costs of a new baby and my wife staying at home we are doing everything we can to prevent having anymore kids until at least 2 yrs. Of course that means me using protection.
“Of course” it means no such thing. “Protection” is “contraception” and that is never a moral choice. There are morally valid ways to space and plan a family. Contraception is not one of them.
[quote=uofl19] Like I said I felt apprehensive myself but when every other Catholic I know does the same thing
You have it sooo wrong. Sinning in company with others is still sinning.
[quote=uofl19] and my Mother and Father who are in their early 70’s are telling me either she goes back to work or she goes on the pill, you can’t afford another child at this point.
Your family planning is NONE of their business. My parents do not give me orders about my family or whether or not I work, or my husband works, and certainly NOT on the number or spacing of my children.
[quote=uofl19] Mind you these are 2 people who are born and bred Catholics.
And, they are wrong.
[quote=uofl19] The thing about it is, I don’t feel a lot of guilt about it because it is stressful enough financially with 1, I can’t imagine 2,3,4 more kids.
You don’t feel guilty because you are contracepting? Habitual sin dulls the senses and the conscience.
[quote=uofl19] I know I will get bashed from some or most but is ther anyone out there who is going through what I am??
Telling the Truth is not bashing. If you want someone to approve of you using contraception so you can feel better, you’ve come to the wrong place.
[quote=uofl19] I mean saving for retirement, house payment, saving for son’s college. I make a modest income and we have no debt but the house. So we are not spending carelessly, I just don’t see how some people do it making 40-50K with 2-3 kids. I will not go into DEBT FOR ANYTHING!!
So, what is it you’re looking for? Approval to contracept? There is no Catholic teaching that says you have to have many children. There is no teaching that says children must come on the heals of each other. Your baby is young-- you do not need to have another right away if you have a serious reason to avoid another child.
BUT, that does not mean contraception is the answer. I’d suggest going to www.omsoul.com and reading up on Catholic teaching and natural family planning.
Visit www.ccli.org for information on natural family planning classes in your area.