One time I got into a debate with a person regarding the existence of God. I was able to answer all of his questions, so from a logical standpoint I was doing well. Then he got frustrated and started insulting faith and me for having any. After a couple minutes of this I grabbed his shirt and almost punched him in the face. The facts didn’t help me.
After I had been able to open my heart to God (as a result of that incident!), I went out to a bar to celebrate the end of the semester with my roommate. I got into another debate with someone regarding, again, the existence of God and the validity of the Catholic Church. Once again, I answered his questions and debunked misconceptions. Once again, the other person got angry and stared getting defensive and insulting the Church. Instead of lashing back, I looked down at my beer, said I was going to get another and asked if he’d like one. I came back and he had totally calmed down and as he was leaving for the night he said, “You know, I could really get behind your brand of Catholicism.” All I did was do as Jesus commanded.
The point here is that apologetics is good, but sometimes that’s not what people really need. Sometimes they need to see our faith and love in action to really start to understand.