I live in a fanstasy world and i have ever since i was 17....well all my life i have actually


#1

pornography phone sex, please pray for me on these things, i make promises to God oh im not gonna do it no more, next day i get the urge to watch a favorite porn chick or to phone bone and i do it, i cant keep promises to myself nevermind to God. thank you, I KNOW THE POWER OF PRAYER. - Kevin G. From RI


#2

But i know he keeps his promises to us, and can get through it and past it, this is the 13-17 me at age 25 now, i need to grow the f#@$ up! I GOTTA GET MY MIND ON MY SOULMATE CAUSE THATS WHAT I TRUELY WANT NOT A WHORE. OR TO BE A WHORE NO MORE. THANK YOU, GOD BLESS:thumbsup:


#3

I hope and pray that you do want to change for that is the only way you can do this. It is like an alcoholic who wants to give up alcohol. He needs AA to help him and most of all he needs God, or he will fail. You say you are now 25 years old and it is time for you to grow up and I agree with you. I will tell you that it is going to be so hard for you to give up porn. This is what I have seen in the men who have been addicted to it since their teens. Don’t let it ruin your life like it did theirs. I want to tell you of one man’s life so that you can see what I mean and it won’t be too late for you, for it is as far as his wife goes for him. He has lost his wife and his family.

This man started pornography at the age of 13 years old and is now 52 years old. He got married at the age of 37 years old. He has four children. He had one separation from his wife prior to this now permanent separation in which she is filing for divorced(married 15 years). Five years ago was their first separation. We knew them and that they were having problems. The wife was angry and bitter towards her husband in the first separation. All she wanted was a divorce and in fact filed for a divorce. We did not know that the root of all their problems was his addiction to pornography. He had it bad. He did the phone sex and porn on the internet as well as movies he bought and let’s say that he spent thousands on this “junk” for that is what it is. His wife always knew for he would want to act out what he saw on the movies or the internet. She finally left him or kicked him out of the house and he is a devout Catholic to the rest of us, or it seemed. He really tried to fight this battle alone. He went to weekly confessions, but it was not enough. They did go to a Christian retreat and she decided not to go through with the divorce and forgive him. He promised to give up the porn, but he could not keep his promise. She had the password on the internet, but he knew how to bypass it. He got a great job that was a six figure paying job. He has never had that before. They were doing very well. They moved into a bigger house and looked happier. They stayed this way for about five years and than he lost his job, but his friends did not know why. One day, she told her husband that she wanted to take the kids and visit her mom up North. He said it was fine. She withdrew a large sum of money from the bank and when she got to her mothers, she turned off her cell phone and did not accept his calls. Two days later, she tells him that she is leaving him and not returning. As friends, we did not understand. We thought they were happy. He did not tell us differently. She had to come back down to pick up more clothes and when she did, she talked to me. She told me that her husband lost his job that paid so well because he was caught watching porn at work. She found that he had been watching porn at home and found movies hidden. She trusted him and he broke that trust again. She had it and did not believe him anymore. The worse was when she found that he was visiting websites of child porn. She was concerned for her daughters. He did not deny visiting the sites to her, but did to us or sort of. He said the young girls were 18 years old. Who knows?

The whole point is that this man has a severe addiction problem. He did not know how bad until he lost his wife for the second time. He took her for granted that when she took him back, he continued with the porn and broke the trust again between them. He lied so much to her about money and how it was used to cover the thousands he was spending on porn. He could go through $5000.00 in a month. I can’t imagine. Currently, he lives here in Florida and his wife is in another state. He goes up north once a month to see his kids who are afraid of him and only under his wife’s supervision. He doesn’t like it, but he won’t do anything about it for he doesn’t want a divorce so he doesn’t get lawyers involved. He recently got a settlement of $12,000.00 from an auto accident and his wife, still having assess to his bank account, withdrew half. He got mad, but I think she had a right to it since he spent so much in porn while they were married. He also lost $35,000.00 of her money in some business adventure he wanted to take and she didn’t agree with. So when he calls here to complain, I remind him of all that he lost and spent of her money when she was working and when they were together. For now, he has lost his wife, who is too angry to reconcile with him and almost can’t stand to be around him, and he lost the respect of his kids especially his oldest son. He is also very verbally abusive and that is why his kids are afraid of him and not because the mother told them about his porn addiction, which she has not. We think the oldest son has figured it out. He isn’t stupid. He is 14 years old.


#4

Do you want this for your future? I hope not. So before you get married, please get the help you need. You can go to www.dads.org (Go to Help box and click on Pornography) even though you may not be a dad and read the 12 steps to Freedom from Pornography. This alone will not help for it didn’t for this man. He has to go to a Christian base support group at a local Baptist church once a week, he has a spiritual director and goes to daily Mass. He also continues to goes to confession weekly. The last time I talked to him, he admits he wants to see porn, but he hasn’t in months which is the first time in years for him to be without that long. This is a huge step for him. Will he get his family back? Only God knows. For now, it is not likely, but as I said only God knows and he is hopeful. Find a support group in your area and go to it, but don’t wait if you are serious. First thing, as it says in the 12 steps to freedom from porn, **destroy all your porn. **

I will pray for you for the power of prayer is powerful. Purify your mind in words and in what you watch and see.

dads.org/article.asp?artId=233


#5

Praying for you Kevin. Acknowledging your problem is a good start… Take action…Take Care…


#6

Prayers for you in your struggles

Here is a novena to St. Philomena from EWTN’s website that may be helpful for you to pray. ewtn.com/Devotionals/novena/philomena.htm

**NOVENA PRAYER TO
SAINT PHILOMENA **
We beseech Thee, O Lord, to grant us the pardon of our sins by the intercession of Saint , virgin and martyr, who was always pleasing in Thy sight by her eminent chastity and by the profession of every virtue. Amen.

Illustrious virgin and martyr, Saint Philomena, behold me prostrate before the throne whereupon it has pleased the Most Holy Trinity to place thee. Full of confidence in thy protection, I entreat thee to intercede for me with God, from the heights of Heaven deign to cast a glance upon thy humble client! Spouse of Christ, sustain me in suffering, fortify me in temptation, protect me in the dangers surrounding me, obtain for me the graces necessary to me, and in particular
*(Here specify your petition). *
Above all, assist me at the hour of my death. Saint Philomena, powerful with God, pray for us. Amen.

O God, Most Holy Trinity, we thank Thee for the graces Thou didst bestow upon the Blessed Virgin Mary, and upon Thy handmaid Philomena, through whose intercession we implore Thy Mercy. Amen.


#7

Lord, please help this person meet with a good priest and support group to help him break free of his addiction. May he know that with You all things are possible and You will not abandon anyone who does not abandon You. Help this person keep away from all temptation and occassions of sin and may he begin seriously praying (setting aside a fixed amount of time for conversing with You), reading holy books, going to confession regularly, attending eucharistic adoration and Mass and meeting with a holy priest for some spiritual asistance. May the grace of conversion You have given him develop into a strong desire to resist anything that even hints of spiritual trouble and may he not try and take on his addiction alone. He needs serious help and he needs others. Please provide for him and put him in contact with some good people to help him and support him as he tries to break free of his addiction. Thank you, Lord. Amen.


#8

Praying for you.


#9

You sound as if you are really struggling. I will pray for you.


#10

ive destroyed all my porn destroyed alll my bad rap mp3s, but i mean all you gotta do now a days is go to google and type in free porn videos i got this website i know i never paid for it always downloaded it for free, same thing with music. i do want help but nobody can help me if i dont help myself, i cant change the world if i dont change myself.


#11

Very true. Praying for you… Don’t let the devil deceive you with his false promises. Continue to pray, receive Sacraments, stay close to our Lord and the battle will shift to your favor…

Take Care…


#12

praying hard


#13

Thank you Lord, that this good soul was able to take his first step toward recovery. An excellent advance in his life! Help him to correct his addictive behavior by helping him find a web site for addicts and by giving him the grace to keep busy doing spiritual things, like reading the Bible and spiritual books, by praying…also, by talking to someone about his fears and trials and by exercizing - by doing good and healthy, wholesome things all the time. His life was in the gutter and he must lift himself out totally. May he stay in the light and remain the child of God You made him by going to confession regularly, perhaps meeting with a priest for spiritual direction, joining a health club, if he needs more activity. May he just outright refuse to go on any bad web sites and may he take up a new genre of music that is good for his soul - not destructive and cancerous. Help him become a saint. Bless him and make him holy, I pray. Amen.


#14

still praying


#15

Hail Mary,
full of Grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit Of Thy Womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen


#16

Jesus, Lover of chastity,
Mary, Mother most pure,
and Joseph, chaste guardian of the Virgin,
to you I come at this hour,
begging you to plead with God for Kevin.
He earnestly wishis to be pure in thought,
word and deed in imitation of your own holy purity.

Obtain for him, then,
a deep sense of modesty
which will be reflected his my external conduct.
Protect his eyes, the windows of his soul,
from anything that might dim the luster of his heart
that must mirror only Christ like purity.

And when the "Bread of Angels becomes the Bread of me"
in his heart at Holy Communion,
seal it forever against the suggestions of sinful pleasures.

Heart of Jesus, Fount of all purity,
have mercy on Kevin
Amen.


#17

Beautiful prayer… Amen…


#18

Hail Mary,
full of Grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit Of Thy Womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen


#19

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
:signofcross:


#20

Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth, as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.


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