[quote="MadMax73, post:1, topic:271782"]
I recently told my wife of 15 years that she should stop checking her fertility (Clearblue method) as I would rather live celibately by choice than by force.
You see I couldn't keep watching Phase I and Phase III go by with the constant rejection and avoidance. Then it dawned on me that it wasn't the sex that I want, I want her to want me like I want her. I realized that she never has been that person. For 15 years it was always me who initiated and about 4 times a year she would give in. While she is very fit and beautiful she has never been a physical person.
Since I couldn't explain my feelings without choking up several with tears I wrote her a note telling her how I felt and so forth.
The problem is she hasn't responded in any way and it has almost been a week. We have a 9 year old and 7 year old so we don't have much free time to ourselves.
Please pray for my situation. I don't know if I can bring this subject up without getting emotional but I have decided to suffer with the Lord on this topic since I can't have what I really want.
I am so sorry. Does SHE say that the reason she does not want to make love to you is that she "isn't a physical person?" Has she had any form of sexual trauma in her life? Would she consider getting therapy to deal with her lack of sexual interest? 4 times a year is not a normal sex drive by any means. Even low-sex people have more interest than that. If she has always been this way, then it probably isn't a physical cause, but a psychological one.
I know it hurts you, and you feel rejected and helpless. I will add you to my prayers. I think you are doing all that you can by letting go of the expectation that she will ever want you in the same way that you want her.