[quote="mrsfig, post:14, topic:181654"]
I am a practicing Catholic with many failings and getting to Mass is one of my main struggles. I knew the 8th was an HOD, when my grandma called me, it was unexpected, the noon mass had already passed and I knew I could still make the 7pm mass right before my bible study. She was very depressed at the time and as I mentioned home-bound.
I did her shopping and when it was time to leave, I debated whether to stay with her just a little longer or go to Mass. She didn't want me to leave and I was even late to my study. My grandma is VERY devout and I prayed with her. I decided to keep her company and miss Mass hoping God wouldn't consider it a mortal sin against me.
I did email my spiritual advisor, my parish priest, the next day but he never replied and I just got caught up in the busyness of the holidays and abstained like I mentioned until Christmas Mass. I am VERY aware of being spiritually prepared to receive our Lord. During the homily, the Priest spoke of the Eucharist and how that day of all days was the most important to receive Him. I spoke the words, "Lord, I am not worthy to receive you, but only say the word, and I shall be healed."
I know this doesn't make up for confession but I know three things are required for a sin to be mortal one of which is for the intention to be separated from God, which I was not. On this principal alone, I believe I was not in mortal sin.
Oh Dear Lord, I am not trying to make excuses and like I mentioned previously, I realize I should have gone to confession weeks ago. I just want to know if indeed it was a mortal sin or not. Thanks for your help!
I have been lurking in this thread and debated as to whether or not to respond, but there are some things in your latest post that have ne perplexed. Please know that I am not trying to be judgmental. However, you note that your grandma is very devout. As someone who is devout, I am sure that she would have encouraged you to have gone to Mass and take care of your obligation to God, first and foremost.
Remember that the first commandment, above all else, is to love God. Loving God means offering Him the worship that is due His supreme Majesty and keeping the precepts of the Church regarding this solemn duty. Leaving your obligation to keep holy this day of obligation by assisting at Mass was not a wise thing to do. You never know what will pop up. In hindsight, it would have been better for you to have gone the day before or much earlier in the day. Even this obligation is more important than your Bible study group.
We are not obliged to assist at our local parishes when it comes to the Mass. There have been times when I will go to the Mass at the parish closest to me, or even at the local hospital chapel. I will even adjust my schedule to accommodate the Mass, whether it's waking up a little earlier to catch an early morning Mass or finding a church near by during lunchtime. I am sure that your diocesan website has the times and locations for Masses throughout your area.
I love both of my late grandmothers. In fact, my paternal grandma was almost in a situation similar to yours. However, she always made sure that I fulfilled my obligation first to God, then to her. You need to realize that.
I also suggest that, rather than wallowing in this thread, you go to Confession as soon as possible instead of letting this fester and find ways, as I see it, to justify yourself and your actions. Like I said earlier, I do not want to judge you, but there are some things in your posts that do not add up.