I need a direction, help me please


Dear all,
How are you?
Let me introduce my self first. You could call me Skot, I’m a roman catholic woman almost 30 years old. I’m being catholic since 8 years old. All this years in my life seems ok for me.

But recently I feel something wrong with me. I feel like live my life just as it is, and my life seems goes no where. Everyday for me just to wake up, do some morning pray, and go to the office, get home, spend some time with my family, getting online, read books, sleeping, attend sunday Mass, sometimes if i get wake up early I goes to Daily Mass.

I wondering what wrong there, and I said it just like walk around and around and around… I’ve try to change my activity, but it just ‘fun and ok’ for a couple months. I’ve try to find out how to deal with it by getting some advice from my family, friends, reading books and even pray, but it seems not working.

One of my friends suggest my to get more pray, reading bible, join community on chuch, etc. but once more it just for moment.

Well I hope to get some feedback from all of CAF friends to give me some advice, i really need those direction.



You need some new activities to do. How about trying sports, or writing, or doing some other fun activity for the glory of God?


I think that generally when we take on a new activity it’s fun and exciting. But at some point it becomes just a humdrum part of life. The key at that point is to continue to be faithful to it, not just drop it for something newer.

Perhaps it would be helpful to talk with a spiritual director to figure out what spiritual practices would be helpful for you. That person can also be a source of encouragement and accountability.


The Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy

Dorothy Day once said that everything a baptized person does should be, directly or indirectly, related to the corporal and spiritual works of mercy: feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, shelter the homeless, visit the imprisoned, visit the sick, bury the dead (the corporal works); counsel the doubtful, instruct the ignorant, admonish sinners, bear patiently the troublesome, comfort the afflicted, forgive offenses, pray for the living and the dead (the spiritual works). What Dorothy Day proposes here is an extremely “thick” description of the Christian life.

Following Jesus is not, for her, a matter of inner states or private convictions, still less an embrace of gassy abstractions such as “peace and justice.” Rather it is a set of very definite, embodied practices, things that one does on behalf of another. The scriptural warrant for the corporal works is, of course, the twenty-fifth chapter of Matthew’s Gospel: “Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to drink? And when was it that we saw you a stranger and welcomed you or naked and gave you clothing? … . And the king will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me’” (Malt 25:37-40).

Feeding this particular hungry person and visiting these lonely prisoners and taking care of this homeless man with one’s own resources – that is the form of the Christian life. Day was uneasy with the Roosevelt-era New Deal reforms, not because she lacked compassion, but because she feared that they allowed Christians to abdicate responsibility for caring directly for the needy. Applying the Catholic principle of subsidiarity, she insisted that towns, communities, families, and villages should support the brothers and sisters that they could see with their own eyes and reach with their own hands – and not pass the buck to the far more abstract care of the government. When starry-eyed young idealists would come to her Catholic Worker House, hoping to have a romantic experience “with the poor,” Dorothy Day would tell them, “There are two things you need to know about the poor: they are ungrateful and they smell.” The poor, she was telling them, are not a quaint abstraction, and working with them is not a holiday; their plight is frighteningly real, and the work is dangerously direct.

What we see in both the corporal and spiritual works is a practical antidote to Augustine’s curvatus in se. All of them compel a self-regarding ego outward in the direction of mission and connection, and, as such, they constitute a distinctively Christian social theory, radically out of step with modern social arrangements, but well-suited to the walking of the third path of holiness. It is remarkably difficult to cling to the illusion that your life is about you when you are focused, body and soul, on the needs of another.

…We bear each other’s burdens in love because we are, whether we like it or not, connected to one another. Since Christians believe that we are all rooted in the same divine source, we are all brothers and sisters, or better, organs in the same body. Contra Hobbes, it is not the war of all against all that is “natural” to us; rather that frightening condition is the product of a sinful denial of what the universe really is. Christians know that when we deal with one another in love, we are not only acting in an ethically upright manner, but we are moving in sync with the deepest rhythms of creation. Hence; there is, for followers of Jesus, no such thing as “your” problem; as yours it is mine. If there is one person starving, the whole body suffers; if there is one child lonely, we are all diminished; if there is one who dies through violence, we are all violated. Bob Dylan commented bitterly on the typically modern reversal of this perspective when he said, “I heard one person starve /I heard many people laughin’.” uncompromised solidarity and communion is what the works of mercy embody."

I noticed your list of daily activities did not include anything from Matthew 25. Neither does mine and I suffer from the same ennui and am sick myself. I’m going to do this though and everyday I get various proddings, like you’re note. I’ve already volunteered at a VA Hospital to read to the patients on the wards but they never called me back. So I have to go back and do it again I guess. Even if it’s once a month there is something you can DO for someone that will be the most exciting thing you do this year. The above quote comes from Fr. Robert Barron.



You sound like a very loving and spiritual Catholic. Love is the invisible thread that binds us all together especially if we are on the spiritual path. Therefore, know love, and love will appear in the form necessary for our experience. Everything that happens in our experience happens as an activity of God’s love, but unless we are conscious of His love it is of no benefit to us. We can have a bank account with millions of dollars and be homeless because we are not aware of it. We must know God’s love, be consciously aware of it, remind ourselves of it and make it a conscious activity in our thoughts. Then we can bring it forth into manifestation. You are very blessed and your work to raise your consciousness is raising the consciousness of the planet. The Carmelite Nuns do this kind of work. God Bless.


I will keep you in my prayers you have been given some good ideas Keep busy and changing your routine is a good idea alongside prayer to be guided by The Holy Spirit.
Dear Lord please inspire and giude Your daughter in her time of need.
Thankyou for Your many Blessings
Through Christ Our Lord


Try taking 20 minutes out of your day, even on the way to work, and say your rosary DAILY. Ask Mary to help you. You also need to start asking the Holy Spirit to take over your life. The Holy Spirit took over Peter’s life, and he went from being a weak coward to an evangelist martyr.

Believe me these 2 things will accomplish what you asked about in your original post.



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