[quote="johnnyt3000, post:1, topic:447824"]
I was wondering if there were any fellow guys on here that has some advice on how to deal with the heartache you get when you want to find a wife and you know God wants you to but you can't find her. I'm a Junior in college and i'm passionate about my Catholic faith. Thank you for the help. Pax Christi.
[quote="johnnyt3000, post:2, topic:447824"]
I also wanted to add this, how attracted should I be to a woman to ask her on a date? I do also wonder whether i'm just being too picky. I don't need to seek a supermodel; but besides one woman I was genuinely physically attracted to (whom I already asked out but said no) there aren't any women around here that I'm genuinely attracted to that also are passionate about their catholic faith.
You're overthinking it, but you're also not wrong to look for someone who is both attractive to you and Catholic.
Might I suggest taking a step back and focusing on finding and interacting with specifically Catholic women? :compcoff: Some times, people who were not previously attractive to us become attractive to us when we find something we have in common, or an interest is uncovered. Both of my long-term girlfriends I found this way. Neither of which were someone who I had been actively pursuing (or even aware of, really) in that regard, and yet we were placed in a mutual situation, in a way that I can only imagine God was at work. :shrug:
What happens after that is largely up to the two people, which is why it often doesn't work out. :thumbsup: ...or you join the seminary ;)] But at least with a mutual Catholic background you have the Grace of God working through the relationship to help keep it chaste and focused on discerning the all-important questions of "Do we agree on matters of faith? Does this person help me stay close/get closer to God? Do I try to do the same for her? Can I see myself living with her for the rest of our lives?"
Ultimately, when we look at the long-term, those are the questions that matter. Attractiveness is important, but how.