I am the youngest (now 42) in a family of cradle catholics.
For the most part (other than the odd Sunday mass) my extended family does not live a life that exemplifies the ways of our lord Jesus (my opinion). We have constantly gone through estrangements; resembling the changing seasons. When we (my own family) visit them, you get the sense that they would rather be somewhere else. When thye visit us; it’s like they can’t wait to go… (You can feel the insincerity)
They always talk about what they have, where their going, what they’ve done, who they know, etc :mad: …it’s hilarious…but sad.
They are gossipers, constant liars (of even the littlest things), arrogant, with unwavering pride, lovers of money, constantly foul mouthed, :mad: they invite you over and treat you like poop, all the while having witnessed them treat acquaintances like royalty. They try to entrap you (even using the few teachings of Christ that they know) against you.
It’s like a bizzaro world, (seriously)
I really don’t like “knowing about them “ anymore, much less being around them.
But the lord says…
“Turn the other check”
“Love your enemies”
“Do unto others as you would…”
“If you only love those who love you….”
And so on.
But I feel like… “Hey…, they are “Catholic”, they know where to find the word of God if they want to. They are not starving or poor or lack shelter…. Why do I need to be a part of this?
I am not helping them to Jesus (they don’t respect me) but they are possibly dragging me down, possibly causing me to sin, (getting upset – having angry thoughts, etc)
:rolleyes: Why should I feel guilty of turning the page on this part of my life?
I have a wife and 2 kids, never miss a Sunday, do bible study, charitable works - including our time. I’m also planning to join KofC. We are always looking to help others and to do the right thing. We teach our children about the Lord, as well as learn and grow more & more ourselves.
We are Pro-Life, for traditional marriage, etc (While my extended family have assorted views on these issues and others)
When I think of having to even just talk on the phone with my extended family… it depresses me, it puts me in an upsetting mood. There are so many incidences from the past, present, (and look close enough) coming around in the foreseeable future, that make me wonder…WHY be part of this???:shrug:
I don’t know what to do!!!
Why should I feel guity???