[quote="JackVk, post:6, topic:241365"]
He's 20 and I'm 19, and Dad isn't Catholic. In fact, Dad is where he gets his cynicism towards my faith.
And that's another thing. I feel like I can't talk about Church without him making a snotty comment about the Church (always something borderline blasphemous, or a snide remark about collecting money). And Mom is a cafeteria Catholic who doesn't think missing Mass on Sunday, contraception, or swearing are mortal sins, not does she believe confession is necessary. I am finding it harder and harder to live with these people. They feel like strangers now.
I have said so many rosaries and offered so many intentions at Mass for him. He just seems to be getting worse. I don't even want to live in this house anymore. I feel like I have let God down because of my failure to convert them. I have tried to live by example, and they still are not getting it.
PLEASE do not take this on as your burden! This is actually pride on your part, to think that YOU need to feel responsible for your loved ones' salvation! You are human, Jesus is superhuman! I agree that you probably need to start making plans to leave home. You are in a sort of fiery furnace where it's going to be a test of your faith...It can strengthen you, or it can break you...Rely always on God's word and His promises, and the sacraments! Go to Mass often! Do Adoration and confession as often as possible! The Lord will shine through you. But it is NOT your job to save them! Jesus already did that on the cross of Calvary.
I sometimes get discouraged because my husband has not seen Christ through me, either, but then I realize that his heart is bitter toward God, which spills over onto me when I try too hard to show him Christ's love. I expect him to see the joy of Christ but he only sees what God hasn't done for him. All I can do is "Let go, and let God" handle my husband's bitter spirit.
What would your dad say if you knew his son was contacting 14 year olds (ostensibly) over the internet? Even if there were no moral issues involved, wouldn't he be very concerned for the legal issues your brother is playing with? If not, if he would be nonchalant, I'd find a way to get the heck out of that house (after confronting your brother of course) ASAP. Your father needs to set some limits with the internet, but it may be that he won't. So your boundaries may need to be set a little differently once you leave the house.
I will keep praying for you!