It woud seem harsh to question a person after missing mass three times. However, your failure to use envelopes may be the cause of the problem. Why do you choose to make your parish support without use of the envelopes? Many parishes with schools provide monetary support to the school. In turn the parish expects school families to support the parish.
Forgive me if I a mistaken; but the tone of your post sounds combative and hostile. Are you involved in any parish work? Do you support your parish with your time, talent and financiallly?
Now, I do not believe that any parish [or catholic school] is going to extract ‘blood from a turnip’ My grandson receives a scholarship to attend our parish school, based on family economics. My daughter’s family still meets the expected weekly contribution. If they coulld not, my daughter would communicate that with the principal and our priest.
That said our school families are expected to contribute $10 each week [but the contributions can be made monthly, quaterly, annulay, etc] In addition they ar expected to volunteer and fund raise.
Non catholics [when there is a rare opening not filled by a parishioner] is over $7,000 per student. A parishioner pays around $5,000 +/- due to archdiocesan and parish subsidies. In addition, there are scholarships and other assitance based upon need.
In general, all parishioners should make pledges and use the envelopes to assist the parish administrative council, pastoral councill and parish staff in budgeting and providing services to all the parishioners. AFter all you want the school you want the parish buildings and all that comes with them [lights, flushing toilets and toilet paper, missalls hymnals, Eucharistic bread and wine, support for the home bound, gymnasiums, religious education and adult education programs, etc].