I need your help!


#1

Guys,

I need your help! My mom is very ill, they’re doing another test to see if she might have cancer! :frowning: She called me last night on the phone and she was crying her eyes out! I felt sooo bad. Not to mention today is her birthday!

Though she is not Catholic, how can I explain to her the meaning of suffering from the Catholic point-of-view in a way that she understands? I’m not sure she quite gets it from a Catholic p.o.v. when I tried to explain it to her. I want her to be in peace with her sufferings so to speak. Make sense?

Please pray for her too!!


#2

You and your mom will be in my prayers at adoration tonight. IMO now is not the time to try to explain the Catholic view on pain and suffering. I would give her a copy of ‘Why Bad Things Happen To Good People’. It is by a Jewish Rabbi but I think it is good and will help her with her pain.


#3

Suffering serves to draw us closer to God, and provides others an opportunity to minister in His name.


#4

Jesus is the prime example for us, especially for suffering. In order to do His Father’s will, Jesus HAD to go through the ultimate suffering. He was beaten, whipped, insulted, forced to carry His cross, stripped, and crucified.

Now if we have to follow God’s will, we too have to suffer, just as Christ did. Jesus’ death on the cross saved us from final death, but not from the hardships of life. He never said that the path to Heaven was easy, but He did say that those who suffer for His sake will be greatly rewarded.

The only way we can get to the Father is through the Son. Jesus’ carried His cross, and in following Him, we, too, must carry our cross. There’s a purpose to suffering! Think of it as going side by side with Jesus to Calvary. Now there may be pain, but in the end there will be peace!


#5

These are scripture quotes that have helped me during my suffering. Though it’s difficult to understand, we suffer because God loves us, He is teaching us, and we are called to be like Him in all things:

Rom. 8:17-18
Since we are His children, we will share His treasures - for all God gives to His Son Jesus is now ours, too. But if we are to share in His Glory, we must also share His Suffering.

Phil. 1:29
For to you has been given the privilege not only of trusting Him but also of suffering for Him. For He is using your sufferings to make you ready for His kingdom.

1 Tim. 4:10
…We work hard and suffer much in order that people will believe…

2 Tim. 2:12-13
And if we think that our present service for Him is hard, just remember that some day we are going to sit with Him and rule with Him. But if we give up when we suffer, and turn against Christ, then He must turn against us. Even when we are too weak to have any faith left, He remains faithful to us and will help us, for He cannot disown us who are part of Himself, and He will always carry out His promises to us.

1 Peter 4:12-13, 19
Don’t be bewildered or surprised when you go through the fiery trials ahead, for this is no strange, unusual thing that is going to happen to you. Instead, be really glad - because these trials will make you partners with Christ in His sufferings, and afterwards you will have the wonderful joy of sharing His glory in that coming day when it will be displayed.

Matt. 10:38
If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine.

Col. 1:24
But part of my work is to suffer for you; and I am glad, for I am helping to finish up the remainder of Christ’s sufferings for His body, the Church.

Heb. 12: 6, 11-13
For when He punishes you, it proves that He loves you. Being punished isn’t enjoyable while it is happening – it hurts! But afterwards we can see the result, a quiet growth in grace and character. So take a new grip with your tired hands, stand firm on your shaky legs, and mark out a straight, smooth path for your feet so that those who follow you, though weak and lame, will not fall and hurt themselves, but become strong.

Romans 5:3-5:
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Our Lord must love you much to give you so great a part in His suffering.
– Mother Teresa

It is precisely when I suffer that my joy is greater.
– St. Faustina


#6

[quote=Paris Blues]Guys,

I need your help! My mom is very ill, they’re doing another test to see if she might have cancer! :frowning: She called me last night on the phone and she was crying her eyes out! I felt sooo bad. Not to mention today is her birthday!

Though she is not Catholic, how can I explain to her the meaning of suffering from the Catholic point-of-view in a way that she understands? I’m not sure she quite gets it from a Catholic p.o.v. when I tried to explain it to her. I want her to be in peace with her sufferings so to speak. Make sense?

Please pray for her too!!
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You are always in my prayers, because you have been such a delight to 'know" through this forum. But tonight, during my evening prayers, I will say a very special prayer for you and your Mom so that she will be able to unite her suffering with Christ’s on the Cross and know that whatever happens, nothing she is feeling or thinking or worrying about has ever been for nothing!


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