I Quit My Job Today--Did I do the right thing?


#1

Today was the day that I did it. I was going to try to finish out the semester but I decided I just couldn’t do it. I only work two Sundays a month but it seems to be interfering with everything. My husband works every other Saturday so there are some weekends that we don’t ever get to be a family. He wants us to volunteer for a Knights of Columbus activity that they do every year but we can’t because I am scheduled to work. It seems that every time we want to do anything I am scheduled to work. My 4year old daughter cried this morning when I left and asked, “When do we get to be a family?” That did it. Finances or no, I had to quit. I e-mailed my director and supervisor that today would be my last day. I pray that I am doing the right thing.

These were my reasons:
The only days I get to work are Sundays. Even if I wanted to work other days, I couldn’t because we only have one vehicle and my husband works in a completely opposite direction.

Sunday is the Lord’s day.

We need the money but I am selling books online and actually making more money without all of the hassle of traveling and dressing up.

They recently started requiring some mandatory training that we have to do on our time with no reimbursement of any kind. Their reasoning is that attending this training is a condition of our employment. Sorry, I work two days a month and you are going to make me go to a four hour training session and not get any pay or reimbursement.

Ok, I am done venting and need some reassurance that I did the right thing. Is it common for employers to require that you attend a training session without any reimbursement whatsoever?


#2

i think you did the right thing.

I would just add that you might want to report them to the labor board.


#3

Fantastic for you! Now you will get to be a family on the weekends! Really, how much money could you get for two days’ work per month that could make all that pain and hassle worth it? :thumbsup:


#4

Makes sense to me. It was only two days a month anyway as another poster mentioned, so it couldn’t have been that big of a boon financially and it was cutting into family time.

Maybe you could find something part time in the evenings a couple nights a week if you have to work. Although if you’re making money with the online thing then never mind.

Good luck and enjoy your family time! :slight_smile:


#5

review the reasons why you took this job in the first place. If those reasons are still in place, and you still need to work, first decide when and where you are able to work, then base your job search on that criteria. If the initial reasons that sent you to work no longer apply, re-evaluate your entire family situation before you look for another job.


#6

[quote=puzzleannie]review the reasons why you took this job in the first place. If those reasons are still in place, and you still need to work, first decide when and where you are able to work, then base your job search on that criteria. If the initial reasons that sent you to work no longer apply, re-evaluate your entire family situation before you look for another job.
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I don’t plan on looking for another job and that is what is scaring me. I took the job over 5 years ago. It was about 19 hours a week when I started but has slowly dwindled with each child and with each budget cut from the higher ups. Given that we only have one car, I don’t think it would be possible to find a part-time job in my field that would allow us to share the car. This is a big step for me because I have never really thought of myself being without a job.


#7

[quote=TridentineFan]Fantastic for you! Now you will get to be a family on the weekends! Really, how much money could you get for two days’ work per month that could make all that pain and hassle worth it? :thumbsup:
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That has been my thinking too but I am a “professional” and have a master’s degree. I have actually had people tell me that I would be wasting my education if I were to quit working. I have been struggling with this ever since my youngest was born almost 2 years ago. My oldest will be 5 this summer and I intend to buckle down on the homeschooling.


#8

Wow…same situation here…I, too, have a master’s degree and have informed my director that I will not be renewing my contract. I asked someone if I was wasting my education and 16 years of experience. She told me that I wasn’t…I got from it what I needed in the past and now it’s not giving me what I need anymore. Time to move on and find something that will give me what I need at this point in my life. My career gave me what I needed in the past and was good to me then. But life goes on, I have changed and my career needs to change, too. I used the following analogy on a different thread, but is appropriate here, too (From the book, The Seven Things That Steal Your Joy) – With my job, I felt like I was riding a dead horse…I kept getting on it every day, urging it on, kicking it, swatting its behind, but yet it didn’t move…it didn’t take me anywhere. It was dead! But yet I kept getting on the same dead horse every day, still expecting it to take me somewhere. Finally, after four years of getting on the same dead horse (yeah, I’m a slow learner!) I decided it was time to dismount and find a new horse. One that will take me somewhere. So that’s where I am now. Checking out the herd, so to speak. Of course I had to weigh the implications of my decision on my family’s life, too, and my choice of jobs will depend on how it affects my family, too. Scary, yes. Exciting, yes. Regrets, not one! :thumbsup:


#9

[quote=ConcernCatholic]I don’t plan on looking for another job and that is what is scaring me. I took the job over 5 years ago. It was about 19 hours a week when I started but has slowly dwindled with each child and with each budget cut from the higher ups. Given that we only have one car, I don’t think it would be possible to find a part-time job in my field that would allow us to share the car. This is a big step for me because I have never really thought of myself being without a job.
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How can you think of yourself as being without a job when you have a 2 and 5 year old? You have a full time job with them and may I add that it is the most important job in the world, being a good parent. When you are a grandma are you going to wish you had kept the job or are you going to be glad you stayed home with your kids and were able to spend quality time with you husband on weekends. You kids don’t care if the car is new or old, the house is big or small, if they wear Baby Gap or Target clothes, if you eat at a steak house or have burgers at home. They do care if you are there when they need you, if they feel loved and secure.


#10

CC

You did the right thing, I truly believe that. You know that I wish you nothing but the best and will let you know that the good Lord will provide for you and your family. The Lord loves families and I think that those that put their families first find great favor with Him.

God bless you for doing this and know that you will be in my prayers as well as your family. As I know, money is not everything, but I would prefer to trust in the one that gives me everything I need to get that money.

God Bless!!


#11

I’m wondering if there are family expenses that can be cut back to make up for the income loss. Cell phones? Cable TV? Starbucks Coffee? When the kids are in school, maybe you could work part-time during school hours. Could a transit system get you to work instead of a car? God bless you for putting your family first during these early years. - Rob in Oregon


#12

I for one applaud your courage, It is a good thing!


#13

[quote=farmbabe1]Wow…same situation here…I, too, have a master’s degree and have informed my director that I will not be renewing my contract. I asked someone if I was wasting my education and 16 years of experience. She told me that I wasn’t…I got from it what I needed in the past and now it’s not giving me what I need anymore. Time to move on and find something that will give me what I need at this point in my life. My career gave me what I needed in the past and was good to me then. But life goes on, I have changed and my career needs to change, too. I used the following analogy on a different thread, but is appropriate here, too (From the book, The Seven Things That Steal Your Joy) – With my job, I felt like I was riding a dead horse…I kept getting on it every day, urging it on, kicking it, swatting its behind, but yet it didn’t move…it didn’t take me anywhere. It was dead! But yet I kept getting on the same dead horse every day, still expecting it to take me somewhere. Finally, after four years of getting on the same dead horse (yeah, I’m a slow learner!) I decided it was time to dismount and find a new horse. One that will take me somewhere. So that’s where I am now. Checking out the herd, so to speak. Of course I had to weigh the implications of my decision on my family’s life, too, and my choice of jobs will depend on how it affects my family, too. Scary, yes. Exciting, yes. Regrets, not one! :thumbsup:
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Thank you so much for that. These are the things that I need to hear. I know in my heart I am doing the right thing. It is just difficult for my mind to get there. Too many of the people that I deal with on a daily basis can’t seem to grasp that I want to be with my family and working is not on my list of priorities.


#14

[quote=Rob in Oregon]I’m wondering if there are family expenses that can be cut back to make up for the income loss. Cell phones? Cable TV? Starbucks Coffee? When the kids are in school, maybe you could work part-time during school hours. Could a transit system get you to work instead of a car? God bless you for putting your family first during these early years. - Rob in Oregon
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Thanks for the advice. We have already cut back on the cell phones. We buy our coffee online in bulk to get it super cheap. I refuse to send my kids to school. I plan on homeschooling and my daughter is starting kindergarten. We have already reduced ourselves to a one car family to save on insurance and maintenance. I like to shop so not having a car helps me resist the tempation of going out and spending money. My husband works 9 miles from home so I take him to work if I am going to need the car.


#15

[quote=Mirror Mirror]CC

You did the right thing, I truly believe that. You know that I wish you nothing but the best and will let you know that the good Lord will provide for you and your family. The Lord loves families and I think that those that put their families first find great favor with Him.

God bless you for doing this and know that you will be in my prayers as well as your family. As I know, money is not everything, but I would prefer to trust in the one that gives me everything I need to get that money.

God Bless!!
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Thank you so much for your kind words. Have you started your new job yet?


#16

And there are always other jobs - when your children no longer need you so much (grown and gone) you can find another situation - that is if the ebay thing doesn’t work out.


#17

You did the right thing.

Me and my wife faced a similar decision a few months back when our son was born. We agreed that the right thing to do by God and by our son was for my wife to quit her job.
Yes the finances will be tight but trusting in God our provider we have jointly made this decision.

You will not regret this decision.


#18

[quote=ConcernCatholic] I have actually had people tell me that I would be wasting my education if I were to quit working.
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It is comments like this that make me glad I DON"T have a degree! I am never made to feel guilty for “wasting” my time at home raising my kids. You did the right thing resigning. Enjoy your children, they are only children once. Perhaps you could tutor to make a little extra money if its really all that bad?


#19

I finally got a response from my director regarding the e-mail I sent her. I absolutely love my director because she emphasized how much she respects my decision and told me to let her know when or if I want to come back. My director has repeatedly told me how much she wished she could have been there more for her boys.

She suggested I write a book. I am toying with that idea. It might be fun. I already have some ideas for a couple of non-fiction books that will put my research skills to use.

I would like to thank everybody for their support. It is really great to know that there are people out there that support me. My direct supervisor was obviously annoyed with me but she doesn’t have kids. I think the director and I are the only ones with kids in that whole library. Well, I think one of the guys might have one son.


#20

I gotta wonder why you even have to ask?


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