Well, I had to discuss my feelings about my father, the past hurt and anger. And we did this in a very charitable way, but when we got to the point of reconciling our differences. He can’t seem to handle it. Now he’s not speaking to me again. He’s done this before. It’s almost as if he gets wounded and angry with me when I share my real feelings with him, and then he stops speaking to me. And that’s it. The last time this happen he stopped speaking to me for years. He just recently decided to come back into my life and after a certain time I felt we needed to discuss some things, but when we talked about it he reached a point were he just shut down and acted as if I didn’t exist. It hurts. I forgave him before. Then I allowed him to come back into my life and I would forgive him again. I only hope and pray that he can forgive me for bring this up again, but I really feel we need to discuss this. I want to create good memories with him, but for some reason he can’t seem to get beyond this point in our relationship. It’s almost as if he won’t accept responsibility for his part for the things that happened in the past. He has his point of view about this and I have mine. He seems to thinks that my life is a little askew. Even if it were, is that any reason for him to stop speaking to me? But that’s what he does. And we were doing so well. We really need all your prayers.
I’m sure he is breaking God’s commandment? Could we classify this as breaking the Fifth Commandment? Is this grave matter, and if it is, if he committed it with full knowledge and deliberate and complete consent, then would that be considered a mortal sin?
If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions. Matthew 6:14-15
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these." Matthew 12:30-31
This is my commandment: love one another as I love you. John 15:12
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do. Colossians 3:12-13