My sister married an atheist 14 years ago, and had 3 kids with him because she thought it would make them closer, but things haven’t been good since they had their first kid, and things have gone downhill in all the years following.
He is verbally abusive to both her and the kids, he bragged to my husband about going to strip clubs, and I am convinced he is having an affair because he is gone every night for 2 to 4 hours. He has also moved out of their room into the spare room.
My sister thinks that it is better to be in a bad marriage than be divorced, but I don’t think it is good for her three sons to be in such a horrible household. He is very controlling and just awful. I could tell you stories that just make you shake your head. She wanted to see a couples counselor, but he refused to go, so she went to a counselor to deal with everything. The counselor asked her to keep a diary of all the abusive things he does. He found her journal and threw it away. She then called me and had me start writing down things so he couldn’t find it.
I can’t tell her what to do, but it seems hopeless to me. I am so sad and I wish she would just leave him. He scares me.