Well, every human being struggles more with one sin or another. We have our individual weaknesses. Sure, the numbers would probably be higher of men having direct, straightforward difficulties with lust because of the anatomy being the way it is, and the visual stimulus business, all of that. But some women struggle that way too.
Here’s what many women probably struggle with in higher numbers than men - we are driven by biological and social factors to want to find a reliable man to bond with. We compare ourselves with our female peers, often relentlessly, judge our body image against theirs, and have to contend with envy of those girls the guys flock to. This is while we’re still young, early teens, and maybe still naive that there might be a reason some of those girls get the guys.
As we get a little bit older we become aware that some of the gals are getting boyfriends because they’re willing to be sexual with the boyfriends. And then whenever our turn comes and a guy starts showing romantic interest, then “stuff gets real” - between our own natural bonding hormones (oxytocin, etc.) that are there for the preservation of the species, and peer pressure, and fear of losing the guy, that’s when the challenge against temptation starts for us.
There are also factors that play a part into our 20s, 30s, and beyond. Some read too many romance novels or watch too many chick flicks - and some of those are racier than others. Even the not-so-racy ones cause a lot of gals to have unrealistic expectations and set themselves up for disappointment or dysfunctional relationships.
If we do hope to marry and have a family, sooner or later that biological clock starts ticking. Another thing to stress over, and potentially commit the sin of envy as we watch our girlfriends marrying and settling in to raise children. And then there’s the gossip and drama with other women, or fighting with the boyfriend yet never resolving anything, becoming bewildered and depressed but not coming any closer to a solution.
Sometimes we fall into even worse things, make bad choices such as allowing ourselves to be used and abused just to be able to say we have a boyfriend. Maybe getting into alcohol or drugs or promiscuity or eating disorders to numb our minds to the pain. These are all occasions of sin and pain.
Okay, not all of this happens to every woman - and some is worst-case scenario. But the point is simply that we all have our own crosses, our own temptations. And for male or female, of course the sins of lust are usually the most embarrassing ones to confess. So that in itself makes it difficult.
The good news is that there are more positive chastity and accountability resources available than there were when I and my peers were growing up - so don’t be afraid to make use of them, maybe then you won’t feel so burdened.