[quote="prodigalson12, post:1, topic:179264"]
I've suspected this for a while, the stereotypical signs are there, ie. too, too neat and tidy, very much into his personal appearance to extremes, turns down women left and right, even tells me that often he simply has no interest in women due to the harsh treatment he's faced with his past relationships, literally saying he does not know if he ever wants another woman. This list goes on and on, and the part that's really getting to me now, he's being overly physical, especially when he drinks, he also goes into these weird tangents while he's speaking and does so in with very effiment vocal tones, like a complete personality shift out of the blue.
Last night was the final straw, he was trying to pin me to the wall, holding my wrists and I felt rather violated and would not keep his hands off of me, so opted to leave the party immediately and go home.
I got a call from him apologizing for his behavior, he blamed it on the alcohol, but honestly, can you really blame it? Surely there are underlying factors involved here, us guys "at least if we are straight" simply do not behave this way no matter how much alcohol is involved., He's into reading scripture, say's outwardly that he's firmly against homosexuality, and even states that he has problems with homosexuals, but this behavior is just bizzar, and I have also heard people mention that sometimes people that are homophobic are secretly gay themselves.
Anyway, looking for some advice on how to deal with this situation, it's awkward to say the least, and I wouldn't have a problem with him as a friend if he was out of the closet, but at the same time, I would and do now have one with his invading my personal space, especially in the manner that happened last night.
Well as far as his hygiene and tidyness goes, he may just be a metrosexual....I dont know if women can be them, but I'd definitely be one if they could! I shave my whole body...HAVE to be clean at ALL times...like my clothes PERFECT...I'm insane when it comes to my home...I'm just...meticulous. And theres nothing wrong with that, cleanliness is godliness :)
As far as his personal relationship issues, he might just be havin' a hard time with girls and is put off by them. Nothing wrong with that either. My girlfriends, and myself included- go thru phases where, I wont talk to men, get numbers, try to date- I'm just STRAIGHT- cool- on my own, dont need the drama. If hes had some bad experiences he may just need the breather...but, the right woman comes along and he lets down his defenses...I'd be a friend, talk to him, give him good advice, dont let him carrry baggage...
As far as you guys drinking and rough housing- men I know sure as heck do that! Some groups of guys I know are VERY formal in their interactions with eachother, but then, some groups, like, get my uncles together and they'll be pinning each other down, fighting...get alcohol involved and chairs are gettin' broken...(:rolleyes: men....) If your relationship with your friend is not as informal- I'd just tell him' get off me fool...and dont play me like that...
Then again, he may just be gay. LOL. And if he is, what can you do? Be a friend...talk to him, give him good advice...sounds like this dudes just got a lot goin on upstairs and needs to work some stuff out...
I wouldnt go to him though, and ask him if he was gay. Cuz if he isnt that'd be a crazy little situation...thats something he needs to figure out and come to conclusions on his own...I think.