[quote="rayne89, post:20, topic:229384"]
Some people have a strong "inner radar" that sense when something is wrong. Others do not. Reading the original post this woman is sensing something is wrong -even if it only seems like unwanted hugs & uncomfortable looks. She knows something is off even if there aren't the right words to describe it. The fact the her husband is not stepping in when generally speaking men are natural protectors is giving this guy a green light.
Only twice in my life have I ignored that inner radar thinking I was over reacting and both times I should have trusted my gut. Not everyone has that instinct because I have seen women get into dangerous situations completely oblivious and I think how could alarm bells not have been going off?
The OP may have been raised like many women to be polite & accommodating and while she would do well to not worry about this man's feelings who is holding her figuratively hostage -her husband would send a far stronger message by stepping in.
:thumbsup: Many people desensitize their inner guts in various ways (usually by being too busy to stop and reflect daily, never learning to really listen). I think that is why children have a better sense on who to trust and who not to trust than adults. When one slows down their life it is easier to see things that aren't right and to hear that inner voice that screams out, "this is not right" or "run!"