I was down South and saw many women wearing bikinis


#1

I spent a week in the Bahamas last week and I wore a swimdress b/c I personally feel immodest in a bikini.

90% of the women were wearing bikinis and 80% of them looked terrible in a bikini. :stuck_out_tongue: The other women were wearing one pieces and tankinis. I only saw 2 other women wearing swimdresses and they were over the age of 50 at least.

I just have to say that after a day or two, I no longer cared who was wearing a bikini b/c I stopped noticing them. It was b/c it was the norm to wear a bikini. It was interesting that I stopped noticing it after a while.

I was the ONLY young woman wearing a swimdress. I definitely stood out big time. I got a lot of looks and attention from both men and woman b/c I was the only young pretty and slim girl covered up and wearing a swimdress. I actually found that the men were very attracted to me and it seemed like they were all looking at me more so than they ever did when I wore a bikini :eek: The big difference that I noticed, however, was that even though the men wre majorly checking me out, it was with extreme respect. As I would walk by them, they would smile at me in a very “what a nice girl” kind of way.

I can’t explain it. I’m not a man, so I don’t really know what was going through their minds. I can only share what I personally experienced wearing a swimdress.

I liked the attention I got b/c it wasn’t lustful or creepy. The men were very friendly and respectful towards me. I even had men stop to talk to me about the weather and how beautiful my kids are…it was as though they assumed that I was a good girl and worthy of respect. The younger men were also giving me very nice smiles as I walked by them. It was so strange. My husband was also very proud and I could tell b/c of the smiles and looks I also got from him.

Anyway, it was a very interesting experience.


#2

Interesting! My daughter will wear a bikini but puts shorts & tee shirt over it. She leaves the " outer layer on in and out of the water. I think she understands on some level just what you expressed!:thumbsup:


#3

Next time, just forget about what you have on, and pay attention to your children! Honestly!


#4

That was very interesting, thanks for sharing your experience! It kind of surprised me that you got more attention than the girls in bikinis, but it seems like it was a positive thing for you. Hope you had a great vacation, too! I really miss the sun this time of year. :p


#5

[quote="ohioszo, post:3, topic:231972"]
Next time, just forget about what you have on, and pay attention to your children! Honestly!

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:shrug: Where did that even come from? What gave you the impression she wasn't paying attention?


#6

:rolleyes:


#7

She’s a lot wiser than me. I wish I got this earlier in my life.


#8

Some of us can multi-task. In fact, moms have to be able to multi task or we’d never get anything done.

Me too! It took me twenty five years to start figuring it out!


#9

Then you’re smarter than me too!!! I wish I were as wise as you at age 25!!!


#10

I want a swimdress! :D

Seriously, I have been wanting a swimdress for years because they are so modest and beautiful. But for the life of me I can't find any in girls sizes. It's as though designers assume that no modern teen would wear anything but a bikini. :mad:

I guess I could try to make one...but spandex sounds way out of the range of my sewing ability.
Any suggestions?


#11

[quote="hilaretenebris, post:10, topic:231972"]
I want a swimdress! :D

Seriously, I have been wanting a swimdress for years because they are so modest and beautiful. But for the life of me I can't find any in girls sizes. It's as though designers assume that no modern teen would wear anything but a bikini. :mad:

I guess I could try to make one...but spandex sounds way out of the range of my sewing ability.
Any suggestions?

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I found mine on swimwearplace.com. They are Canadian, but ship to the U.S. Their swimdresses are made for young women.


#12

Thanks for the website!


#13

[quote="Serap, post:1, topic:231972"]
I spent a week in the Bahamas last week and I wore a swimdress b/c I personally feel immodest in a bikini.

90% of the women were wearing bikinis and 80% of them looked terrible in a bikini. :p The other women were wearing one pieces and tankinis. I only saw 2 other women wearing swimdresses and they were over the age of 50 at least.

I just have to say that after a day or two, I no longer cared who was wearing a bikini b/c I stopped noticing them. It was b/c it was the norm to wear a bikini. It was interesting that I stopped noticing it after a while.

I was the ONLY young woman wearing a swimdress. I definitely stood out big time. I got a lot of looks and attention from both men and woman b/c I was the only young pretty and slim girl covered up and wearing a swimdress. I actually found that the men were very attracted to me and it seemed like they were all looking at me more so than they ever did when I wore a bikini :eek: The big difference that I noticed, however, was that even though the men wre majorly checking me out, it was with extreme respect. As I would walk by them, they would smile at me in a very "what a nice girl" kind of way.

I can't explain it. I'm not a man, so I don't really know what was going through their minds. I can only share what I personally experienced wearing a swimdress.

I liked the attention I got b/c it wasn't lustful or creepy. The men were very friendly and respectful towards me. I even had men stop to talk to me about the weather and how beautiful my kids are...it was as though they assumed that I was a good girl and worthy of respect. The younger men were also giving me very nice smiles as I walked by them. It was so strange. My husband was also very proud and I could tell b/c of the smiles and looks I also got from him.

Anyway, it was a very interesting experience.

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Well, I'm not young, pretty or slim like you are, but I definitely will look into getting a swim dress instead of wearing shorts with a tank suit and t-shirt this summer.


#14

[quote="ThereseOfRoses, post:13, topic:231972"]
Well, I'm not young, pretty or slim like you are, but I definitely will look into getting a swim dress instead of wearing shorts with a tank suit and t-shirt this summer.

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Swimdresses are particularly flattering for full figured women. My mom found one on-line for her size and it looked gorgeous on her.


#15

[quote="Irishmom2, post:5, topic:231972"]
:shrug: Where did that even come from? What gave you the impression she wasn't paying attention?

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Oh well, just kidding!


#16

[quote="Serap, post:1, topic:231972"]
I spent a week in the Bahamas last week and I wore a swimdress b/c I personally feel immodest in a bikini.

90% of the women were wearing bikinis and 80% of them looked terrible in a bikini. :p The other women were wearing one pieces and tankinis. I only saw 2 other women wearing swimdresses and they were over the age of 50 at least.

I just have to say that after a day or two, I no longer cared who was wearing a bikini b/c I stopped noticing them. It was b/c it was the norm to wear a bikini. It was interesting that I stopped noticing it after a while.

I was the ONLY young woman wearing a swimdress. I definitely stood out big time. I got a lot of looks and attention from both men and woman b/c I was the only young pretty and slim girl covered up and wearing a swimdress. I actually found that the men were very attracted to me and it seemed like they were all looking at me more so than they ever did when I wore a bikini :eek: The big difference that I noticed, however, was that even though the men wre majorly checking me out, it was with extreme respect. As I would walk by them, they would smile at me in a very "what a nice girl" kind of way.

I can't explain it. I'm not a man, so I don't really know what was going through their minds. I can only share what I personally experienced wearing a swimdress.

I liked the attention I got b/c it wasn't lustful or creepy. The men were very friendly and respectful towards me. I even had men stop to talk to me about the weather and how beautiful my kids are...it was as though they assumed that I was a good girl and worthy of respect. The younger men were also giving me very nice smiles as I walked by them. It was so strange. My husband was also very proud and I could tell b/c of the smiles and looks I also got from him.

Anyway, it was a very interesting experience.

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Well maybe the people on the beach liked your colour, your children, your family, your happy face.... ? Who knows...


#17

[quote="GraceDK, post:16, topic:231972"]
Well maybe the people on the beach liked your colour, your children, your family, your happy face.... ? Who knows...

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yeah. It was just really interesting that wearing a swimdress made such a difference. In my bikini days, I got zero attention; some looks, but that's about it. Even when I wore a bikini with my 1 year old daughter 2 years ago, people weren't nearly as friendly to me.

Perhaps a swimdress is less intimidating in general.


#18

[quote="Serap, post:11, topic:231972"]
I found mine on swimwearplace.com. They are Canadian, but ship to the U.S. Their swimdresses are made for young women.

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Thanks for the link--saw a one-piece that was not a swimdress but actually provided more coverage!:)


#19

yeah. it’s a great on-line boutique. the prices are great too.

they import their stuff from Asia and Europe. that’s why their stuff looks so unique and fun.


#20

Hmm. I might have to look into the swimdress thing. Sure, it's more modest, but also given that it covers more skin, I wouldn't have to worry about using as much sunscreen. I have an extremely fair complexion that becomes the color of a tomato within a short time in the sun, so this could be helpful. I like being different - especially at my age (21) where girls like to fry their skin...ouch.


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