Hello friends. I am in need of some serious guidance. I am going to talk with my priest about this later, but I would not mind some input from this forum. Please help me out.
Just letting you know, I plan on being a Jesuit Brother Dentist. I guess one could say I flirted with the idea for awhile, but I finally decided that that is what I want to do. However, I lack dental skills so I obviously need to go to Dental School. Dental school is expensive and I am of a middle-class family. So, my parents and I decided that we are going to let the Navy pay for my dental school. I have to serve some years in the Navy afterwards of course, but that was actually my original career choice. I did not need to make much adjustment in my studies or lifestyle. This is where I am faced with a dilemma.
My parents advised me that, when the recruiter comes to interview me and assess whether I am worthy of their Naval scholarship program for dental school, I should “sell myself” as best as possible. Most importantly, they said I had to tell the recruiter (or at least strongly imply) that I planned on serving more than one term in the Navy or perhaps have it as my lifelong career. I expressed disapproval of this. My parents then warned me that I am not going to get the scholarship if I do not do this (the Navy is probably more interested in candidates who will serve longer than one term). They said other candidates will tell “white lies” as well and drop out after serving one term so it only makes sense that I should do so as well. In addition, they said that because I plan on being a Jesuit Brother Dentist after my one term in the Navy, God will forgive me for telling a “white lie” to the Navy recruiter as long as I help thousands of people in my work with the Jesuits. They also reminded me that, because I majored primarily in biology/pre-dental (undergraduate), I will not be able to just switch careers at will. The Jesuit Brothers will not accept me if I lack skills.
I expressed disapproval of this because I felt like I was going to commit evil in the name of good. I consider such an evil to be the most scandalous and perverted. I do not want to live out the rest of my life as a Jesuit Brother Dentist knowing that I committed sin in order to even get to that point in my life. I do not want to tell my patients to good and not evil in the name of the Lord when I know I did it myself. Also, I am concerned about those other candidates who want the scholarship. What if they really wanted to have a lifelong career in the Navy and had not the finances to get into the proper schools? I would not mind being selected over them if I knew we were being fairly assessed, but not if I got selected as a result of lying. But, if I tell the truth (that I plan on serving only one term in the Navy and joining the Jesuits afterwards), the Navy may not pay for my Dental school and my parents would have to “foot the bill.” I love my parents and am thankful to them for raising me and giving me a luxurious life. I do not want to burden them needlessly. But I want to love the Lord as well.
First of all, would lying in this situation be morally permissible? Check out this link for some guidance. I checked it out too, but I would like to see other opinions.
Also, what should I do? Should I lie to the recruiter in order to get into Dental School, join the Navy, and become a Jesuit Brother Dentist afterwards to make up for it? Or should I tell the truth and risk not getting into Dental School or the Navy; have my parents suffer financially; and perhaps become jobless for the rest of my life? Is there anything else you would like to suggest? I thank you all in advance for helping me to resolve this issue. If you want me to clarify anything, then please let me know.