[quote=Lady Cygnus]About every two weeks to a month I give my parents a call to see how things are going at home. You know, just to hear how everyone is doing, are things going well, etc. It would be nice if they would call me first every now and then (well, sometimes they do…if they need something). A few nights ago I called my Mom to talk, but she had to get off the phone early. She promised me she’d call me back (even put a sticky note on her monitor)…well the next day I imed my Dad and he said she was “very sorry” :rolleyes:
I suppose what really bothers me is that often people don’t know my parents even have a third daughter :eek: This is mostly my fault, I have two very outgoing sisters and I tend to be more quiet and reserved. Ok, so I’m flat out anti-social, but God made us all different
I know they love me and their house is very busy, so they don’t often remember with everything else that is going on. I’ve tried calling them more regularly, but it seems I’m just intruding on their lives (or I remember I should call them right about now at 3am).
Just in case it isn’t clear, I’m mostly laughing at myself in this post. To think in most cases it’s the other way around Ah well, anyone else have a similiar experience?
It’s good that you’re mostly laughing at yourself. But I’ll bet you do let it get to you, though?
I have often felt the same way with my mom. Having moved out of state & gotten married, I thought, “I called her last time. Now it’s her turn to call me!” And I’d throw myself an itty-bitty-pity-party, sniffling to my husband about how “If I don’t pick up the phone and call people, I’d never talk to anyone…sniff! sniff!”
I’d play a waiting game, to see how long I could hold out without calling my mom if she didn’t call me. By the time I cracked and called her, I would feel hurt and resentful…great way to start a call, eh?
Here’s how I changed my attitude:
–I remembered that my mother has never like to just pick up the phone and chat, even with her friends. She will, however, chat at length when called.
–I realized that growing up, it was always my parents calling up grandma & grandpa regularly and putting us on the line to talk; never them calling us…there’s a reason for that, and it’s…
–Calling my folks regularly can be my way of honoring (my) father and mother.
**–**I simply decided that being the person who picked up the phone to call would be my weekly “thank you” to my folks.
Also, you said so yourself (above in blue) that “God made us all different.” Yep, that’s right. And some folks he made phone people, and some non-phone-people. If it’s okay to give yourself a pass for being “anti-social”, I think it’s the least you can do to give your folks a pass for not calling you. What do you think?