Another point to be made here…
Suppose God is infinitely knowing and good, and the conceiver and creator of all, including human emotions.
Human emotions when properly ordered – since we are made in God’s image – reflect something of the nature of God.
The infinite nature of God taking on human nature in Christ and glorifying it means that God is not distant and uninvolved, it means that God is infinitely present in our being and intimately aware of everything that happens within and to us. It also means he could very well suffer infinitely every time we sin against his goodness. Why would God permit himself to suffer infinitely? Because God is infinite love.
In classical theism God is impassive. His goodness and his justice are not changed by suffering, even infinite suffering. That Jesus has glorified human nature in eternity also means his intimate involvement in human nature is one of covenant. He not only is one of us but he is each of us. He chooses to endure not only “extreme suffering” for us, but infinite suffering on our behalf when we betray him.
Perhaps Jesus’ suffering betrayal and treachery on earth is something of a representation of what God “experiences” in an analogical sense in eternity by our sinning.
Hell could very well be our experience of God’s suffering owing to our sins which we refuse to give up since we choose not to embrace infinite goodness and love but choose, instead, to embrace pettiness and selfishness. In other words we are too self-involved to pass through suffering but recoil from it owing to our attachment to sin. Thus we refrain from embracing the infinite goodness of God – and then complete the treachery by blaming him for our own indifference to his infinite goodness.
It is our indifference, then, to God’s infinite suffering on our behalf that comes back to us as the hell we bring down upon ourselves. That is, when we separate ourselves from God by sin and left to ourselves, the awareness of God’s infinite suffering on our behalf is intolerable hell, but united to him in love adds infinite perspective to that suffering making it not only tolerable but redemptive within life in God. Our union with God, then, makes all the difference in how we experience God’s infinite suffering – as a desolating hell or as part of our infinite, loving union with God, including his infinite suffering on our behalf.