Right off the bat, let me make it clear that I know what the Church teaches about babies who die without baptism - that we can’t know whether they will go to Heaven or not, and that we can only hope and leave them to God’s mercy. Catholics are free to believe in the idea of Limbo of the infants, or to reject it.
My question is, if Limbo DOES exist, would that mean that those in Heaven would be unable to see/interact/etc with those in Limbo? For example, if a mother lost her baby to miscarriage, and she went to Heaven, would she be able to meet her baby, or would she be forever separated from him? Have theologians and saints specifically addressed this issue? Or does anyone have an argument to make a case one way or the other?
Again, to reiterate, this is NOT meant to be a debate about whether Limbo exists. I’m not looking for people to respond, “It doesn’t matter because Limbo doesn’t exist and they all go to Heaven,” or “Well, I personally don’t believe in Limbo” and so on. I know all that, I know it’s not a defined teaching, that Catholics are free to believe either way etc. I’m specifically asking, IF it does exist, then what does that mean for those who have loved ones there?
I guess I’ll say for those who are wondering that yes, I do have a personal reason for asking this. I’ve got family who died before birth, and frankly it’s tearing me apart this fear that I’m never going to meet them. I’m not even so worried about Heaven vs Limbo on the grounds that I know that whatever the truth is, they’ll be happy in either place. I’m just afraid I won’t get to meet them, and I guess it’s pretty selfish, and who cares so long as they’re happy, but I can’t seem to get over this, and no matter who I ask (I think I’ve asked at least half a dozen priests so far), no one can give me an answer on this.
As CS Lewis puts it, no “soft soap”, please. If you’ve good reason to think that no, those in Heaven would be completely separated from those in Limbo, then please tell me so. I’d rather know.