If spouse dies can surviving spouse get remarried?


#1

I was posed this question by my child and was not sure of the official position of the church. Any help would gladly be appreciated!

Thanks,


#2

Absolutely… You only cannot remarry if your spouse is alive and you have not obtained annulment.
As a widow or widower anyone may marry again in the Church .


#3

So far as I know, the Church has no objection to a bereaved spouse entering again into the sacrament of Matrimony, unless some pre-existing condition would preclude it.

For example, a Deacon whose wife has passed is forbidden to remarry on pain of excommunication, unless:
[LIST]
*]He has children young enough to need the regular attention of a mother;
*]he has elderly parents who need care; or
*]his service to the Church has been of such value that losing him to excommunication is unthinkable.[/LIST]In the past, all three conditions had to be true for a Deacon to receive dispensation to marry; now, it’s any one of the three.

Disclaimer: I’m not a priest or Canon lawyer, nor do I play one on TV; but I did sleep in a Holiday Inn Express - once. :smiley:


#4

Unless, of course, the surviving spouse has taken a vow to not remarry.

This is a common requirement of the Permanent Diaconate (that a married deacon cannot remarry if his wife preceeds him in death).


#5

Are you serious? A Deacon cannot get remarried if his spouse dies?


#6

That is correct.

Peace

Tim


#7

Quite true, Holy Orders – which a deacon receives - being a canonical impediment to marriage. Also, while the conditions listed in Post # 3 may be true for an Eastern Rite sui juris church, I believe in the Latin rite there is now far more rigor – and far fewer dispensations granted – for diaconal remarriage following the death of a spouse. Such a dispensation would never, I believe, be automatic, and would be granted only in a pretty exceptional circumstance now.

Our diocese won’t even accept as aspirants to diaconate formation anyone with children younger than high school. I can’t image that elderly parents or “valued service” would enter into the considerations. However, if a deacon needs to devote care to his parents, I’m sure he would be allowed to suspend his ministerial duties.


#8

Valid marriages end in death.
Yes Deacons cannot date and get married in the Latin Rite.


#9

I think for the OP in response to a child’s inquiry a simple “yes” is sufficient, possibly adding something about wedding vows being “until death do us part” or “as long as we both shall live”.


#10

The answer is, of course, yes. In fact, if the surviving spouse is an man, he can even choose to become a priest. There are a number of priests who are also widowers. However, the non-surviving spouse cannot remarry.


SPIIT: What happens to spousal relationships in heaven?
#11

Yes. If the man will not take the vow, he will not be ordained a deacon.


#12

Obviously! The non-surviving spose is dead. :smiley:


#13

You beat me to it!


#14

It took people nearly 3 hours to get that? :rotfl:


#15

Oy, vey.


#16

We’re not all sitting at the computer waiting to read every post in every thread and respond immediately.


#17

But I thought I had a fan club! :cool: Everyone hanging on my every post… :stuck_out_tongue:


#18

:slight_smile:


#19

My husband and I are 48 and 41 years old. We have 5 girls under age 12. We have discussed that if he or I were to die, that we would want the surviving spouse to remarry if that were the desire.

But, please clarify:
we can only remarry if the other person (we want to marry) has never been married
OR
the other person is a widow/widower as well
RIGHT??
we cannot remarry someone who has been divorced - unless that person has an annulment.
RIGHT??
Thank you.


#20

Correct. A widow/er may only marry someone who is free to marry. Someone who is divorced without a decree of nullity is not free to marry.


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