My marriage is down the tubes. Found out AGAIN, my husband is STILL ACTIVELY GOING TO TOTALLY NUDE STRIP CLUBS AND HAVING AN AFFAIR with a stripper from there for 3 years now. I found evidence as recent as FIVE days ago…Don’t want to get into it, but it’s clear evidence.
QUESTION: It’s obvious he doesn’t want our marriage and our family anymore, so should I wait for him to divorce me? Encourage him to do so even? Or should I instigate it? My relatives are saying oh I should wait until he initiates it. Trouble is I’ve been in limbo now for 3 years, with nothing changing. I cannot stand it one more day… I am feeling tremendous hate and disgust towards him again, and wrote him tonight saying “I never want to see him again the rest of my life” except when he needs to bring money over for now anyway, until I find a job. I confronted him with this further evidence via an e-mail but haven’t heard from him yet. It will only be more lies, I’m sure. We are still married and he has responsibilities.
I hate him soooo much. I have never felt such hate in my heart, disgust, hurt, ever before not only for him, but what he is doing to our children. He could care less if we’re divorced I feel it. Then he can be FREE to date whores…with no more ties to me. He’ll probably be glad if I filed the papers.
I want to do the right thing. I feel he needs to take the responsibility to end the marriage if he wants to be fooling around…what does everyone think? I anm feeling so distraught right now upon finding, just 5 days ago he was back to it…probably even today as his parents said they haven’t seen him all day today…
I am just sick over this. it’s never ending. I want to get on with a life and a future. He drags me into the pit of hell.
Please tell me what I should do.