I just have to wonder… if anyone here is a single parent, do you ever feel tempted to… resent or blame the presence of your child/ren… when things don’t work out in a dating or courtship relationship? have you ever been left by someone because he couldn’t handle the kids?
I ask because I grew up in a single-parent family, and I always felt partially to blame for the way men would always leave after they met the family.
Now, I see my little sister going through the same thing only worse, my mother actually told her it would be her fault if her bf had to leave, because my little sister (8 at the time) was behaving badly enough that he would lose his temper and hit her. and if he hit her again, he wouldn’t be allowed to come back because of CAS and government interferance.
I can see her behaving in ways that frighten me, because they are different than how I reacted.
has anyone ever raised children in this situation, or been raised as a child in this situation, or had a sibling raised in this situation while they looked on helplessly?
how do you cope? what would any of you single parents do, if your bf or potential guy friend hit your little girl or “teased” your four year old until she was hysterical or told your son he wasn’t welcome… would you blame your kids? would you hate the guy? would you be able to pray for him and give him to God?