First of all - Let me say that I am sorry if anything I posted sounded harsh. It was not my intent. As to you specific responses.....
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1. yes that might be true but so what? we have found each other and everything happens for a reason so bringing the past up like that is irrelivent, i am not letting go, the only way to make me let go would be to tear me limb from limb and even then i'd still hang on with my jaw
This is a very interesting response...I wonder why you would wish to hang on this tightly to someone who might not feel the same way as you do....
I realize that you are using hyperbole here, but still it seems to me to speak to an outlook that is somewhat posessive.
- we BOTH have changed, before january i was in all honesty one of the most unthoughtful, self absorbed people i have ever known, i took her for granted and i wasn't paying attention to what was going on out side my bubble, i am no longer that person i have beaten that person and i use the thought of that person to spur me on in challenges that i thought i would never have even contimplated taking never mind trying to overcome them
What has changed since January? Has it been the faith and your studies of it?
- i don't see why its so critical for her husband to be catholic if he supports the church, supports the views, supports the teachings and can see how it can benifit a life.
This is a question that she will need to answer for you. The responses others have given are good, but the bottom line in you rcase is why SHE thinks it is critical.
- yes i have been caught off gaurd and yes it is a surprise but it does not mean in the slightest that im struggling to catch up and make sence of it all. What i feel is fear, im entering a world that i've only read about that i've only seen on tv, i'm immersing myself in something that i do not understand and will not understand for a good while. I'm not trying to learn as fast as i can as i think that would be wrong you have to crawl before you can walk and you have to walk before you can run, im still crawling and for a while i do not see myself grabbing a ledge and pulling myself up, it will take time and effort.
Fair enough...My conclusions were based on what you had posted previously. My apologies if my conclusions were wrong.
As for learning and such....Iw as raised Catholic and left the church for 35 years before coming back...I'm still learning
And the reason why im scarred of mass is because its a huge part of your faith, when you walk in you kneel at the seat, you say prayers (none of which i know)
So think of being on my end and walking into this group of people you do not know, feeling left out and lonely (not through heart of trying), i feel vunerable and when i do things wrong i can see people stare, they know i dont belong there and it freaks me out
OK, well there are a couple of things you can do...First of all recognize why you are there - To learn. Try not to get distracted by others "looks". Better yet, try to make friends - let them know you are knew and trying to learn.
Sit in the back of church at first so there are fewer people to see your mistakes.
Watch mass on TV (you can stream it on your computer from EWTN) This will help familiarize you with what is going on.
Don't worry about not "knowing the prayers" before mass. Just go in and either sit or kneel and talk to God like a friend...
Hope some of this helps.
Oh - and one other thing. If you have any particular questions you are atruggling with, bring them here (in a new thread) and we will try to help you...