I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I am going through a similar situation where my fiance and I were estranged about 8 months ago and cancelled all our marriage plans. I did not immediately realise what I was leaving was the only person there is in this world for me that I can have a love for that would be close to be comparable to the love I have for God. My heart turned to stone. But about 2 months ago I did feel God’s gentle nudge to push me to reconcile with my fiance. So I am sure with constant prayers to God may be he will do the same for you.
Unfortunately for me, my fiance now wants to move on. Now, his heart is like stone.
At the time when I was engaged to my fiance, Dominic and I always had arguments. At the time, I prayed to God for him to guide me to the right path and let me know whether Dominic is the right one for me. So I believe he planned for us not to get married and then for me to change my heart today for a reason. Dominic and I at the time we were engaged were both too immature to understand the true meaning of marriage in God’s eyes. We each had our problems. We were both too proud. Dominic has to learn to control his anger, respect others etc… I have to learn to be less selfish and care about him more instead of just pursuing my own career goals (see I have always thought love/marriage is only one aspect of life, and my husband does not necessarily have to be the most important thing in my life). God has certainly straightened me out since! I am still a work in progress, but I learn everyday from God by praying to him and studying his words in the bible on how to become a more holy person.
God works in mysterious ways and I certainly don’t know what the future holds but my interpretation of God’s plan is that God wants the best for me and wants the best for Dominic. Both of us have a lot to learn on how to be a better Christian, a more holy person, before we can learn how to be better for each other. As said above, I am working on improving myself so that God will bring us back together sooner. I think God still has to work on Dominic, but I know he will bring him back to me one day in the future. And why I am so certain that Dominic will come back to me? Because God has told me so through his conversations with me. The reality is that every odd is against me, Dominic won’t answer my call, I bumped into him with a new female acquaintance two weeks ago. Normally, I would have just forgotten about it and moved on but God has reassured me that it is part of his plan and that, may I put it in secular terms, Dominic just has to go through his rebounds before he knows what was God’s true gift to him.
So for me know, I just have to concentrate on improving myself and praying to God that he may also be able to soften Dominic’s heart sooner and that he may become the person that would be a true gift from God to me.
Remember God always wants to the best for you. If you pray to him, ask him with the sincerest of heart to guide you, submit yourself to him, and you know his promise to you “seek and you shall find”. He will guide you and let you know whether he just needs to do some work on you and your wife through this seperation or whether he has something else intended for you. However, you have to be careful in not blaming everything entirely on your wife, you have to remain an open mind so that God can guide you.
So everytime Dominic crosses my mind, I will pray for him, myself, you and your wife. I know that God only wants the best for us and with prayers sometimes we can mend his ears. So I will pray hard.