I'll give you a short synopsis of my personal situation and you tell me what you think.
For about a year now I have been seriously discerning my vocation. I am about to turn 22 so I'm not rushing the decision because I want to make the right one. At the moment I am stuck between religious life and marriage. Religious life is appealing to me as the holiness of the men and women called to it is often very obvious and is something I envy very much. On the other hand is marriage. The leaders of the church say that we are hurting for religious vocations but I would argue that we are just as in need of people who take the vocation of marriage serriously. I have trouble choosing between the two because I can see the true beauty that God has bestowed on both sacraments. Some extrinsic motivators in my life are that I am successful in my chosen profession, the US Navy. I am also often told by my family member's when I interact with their children that I would make a wonderful father. My family tends to encourage me more toward the married life. So as you can see the extinsic motivators in my life tend to point to married life but intrinsically I can see the value of both. Just to be clear, I am not currently dating anyone for the purpose of maintaining a certain level of detachement, as suggested by St. Ignatius. I am meeting with a spiritual director and intend to delve into this more with him but I just wanted to get the POV of other faithful religious people. Please feel free to ask questions for clarity.