[quote="Suspicious_Mind, post:3, topic:198905"]
Firstly, I don't think you should look into things too much, especially if it's online, so she turns her attention from you to him -- um, hello, that usually happens if someone new butts into a conversation :rolleyes: -- if it's online, why do you care so much anyways?
Secondly, stop trying so hard, if and when someone comes along, you'll be so infatuated and unable to live life as normal that they'll end up breaking up with you (and yes it happens to millions of people all around the world, all the time) -> Perhaps God is trying to encourage you to GET A LIFE without whinging about not having a girl, so when the time comes that you WILL meet someone, you'll be able to handle the relationship well.
You can't even handle being turned down, and are worried about other guys in the playing field...how are you going to handle a full relationship? If I were you, I'd try to change my attitude a bit (this takes some time, but trust me it works -- I was once in a stage where you were), and then when you're not depressed, start getting back into the dating scene, and this means being able to handle rejection. Successfull guys are the ones who keep trying and don't let rejections bother them, if you've not noticed already, life is all about taking those hits and staying up.
I agree with the above statements....
LotusCarsLtd - you've had numerous negative posts about women/self confidence in recent months. Don't let this kind of thing bother you. Just live your daily life and do things you like to do. Work on meeting new people, enhancing your social skills, becoming a more well rounded and better person.
It seems to me like you are forcing things too much with these girls. You put too much pressure on yourself like if all of a sudden a girl stops talking to you or seems more receptive to someone else, etc. Don't think too much into it. Maybe it was temporary and maybe it is genuine. Who knows, but is it really worth getting worked up about? No. Spending time worrying about things is just not worth your time....do something constructive instead.
[quote="flyingfish, post:4, topic:198905"]
Make an effort to change yourself. Social skills can be learned and improved with practice. You can learn to make interesting conversation, you can learn the kinds of things that make people excited.
Also, you have to work on your life apart from women because if you don't you run the risk of coming across as desperate. Women smell the slightest hints of desperation and it turns us off. You have to work on being comfortable being single, that will make you appear more confident, easy going, and attractive as well (plus it will make you feel happier).
That is good advice. You do need to be happily single before you can get into a equal relationship. Lets say you do find a girl when you are a distressed mental state...then she is crutch for you and the relationship doesn't have a solid foundation. There will be inevitable issues in the future.
LotusCarsLtd - You sound like a great guy, just go about your life not worrying about finding a girl to date. Instead just meet lots of women, show them indirectly how good you are and get to know them. Eventually they will see how good of a catch you are.
You are young...being single while you are in college isn't so bad. Really.