I went to an opening for a bar some time ago. There is this guy, “Ian” I have been mutual friends with through my sister, “Joan” for over a decade. Well he went to the opening as well. He saw me and getting to know more about me, became quite smitten. Since then, he has made a few attempts to get me to go out with him, but I just laugh it off, or be nice…, and say hahaha “Ian,” you’re so funny. Probably not nice to give an undercurrent of sarcasm, but he threw back a few drinks. He was getting a little too handsy. I was just pawing him off, and saying, “hey, don’t touch me,” to which my other sister “April” assured him, that just like her, not to touch me and had to tell him that she doesn’t like that either. Well he is kind of insistant. Now if he was a new guy, like Earl, who happen to come with Joan, I wouldn’t have had a problem not giving him eye contact, and restraining from being nice. My friend “Amy,” is a woman who God graced with a gorgeous face. She has always tried to let men feel better about themselves by just giving them some focus and listening attention. So I knew she was being nice out of charity as she has done before.
OK, where do I stand with Ian? He is quite financially secure, slightly annoying, slightly cool, has a past I do not like hearing about. Not interested in dating at all. To be honest, I really don’t want to be seen with this guy again…, if I say anything under my breather about someone or myself, he is quick to tell others and joke about it.
Im not really interested in marriage anymore, but for some reason, people can’t accept this, moreover Ian cannot because he is not Catholic, I was kind of sick with the why why why questions, well I got blunt and asked him, “Well are you a virgin, Ian?” He had a lot of drinks, so the truth came out, and he said, “Well I’m part Greek, so no, I chase tail a lot…,” well I honestly looked at him and said, ”Well then, that wouldn’t be a fair trade then, would it?” Mean? Perhaps. Sorry but when he responded the way he did…, he turned into a diseased possibility…, has a reputation for dating girls who are far younger than him, he is pushing 50, and I am in my early 30’s, he usually talks to girls in their 20’s and his last girlfriend was 19. Hm somehow he says, he can’t get them to settle down. Again I shot back, "Well, were you ready to segtle at 19?"
Meanwhile, I go bike riding with my friend Amy a couple days later. I tell her that Joan told me that Earl thought he had a chance with her. Amy laughs, I, huffing and puffing ask Amy…, so are we supposed to hide under a rock? We can’t even be nice to guys or strangers anymore, because they actually think it is opportunity for them. Joan keeps trying to tell me to just blow Ian off and try to set him up with someone who has a disease because that is what he deserves. I don’t know anyone like this, I don’t have the vile intent. Well Ian invited me to his birthday…, and he adamantly requested me to come…, he asked Joan if I would come, and now I have to respond his email. What do I tell him? I can’t be nice to this guy because he doesn’t accept that, he’ll take advantage and keep pushing. Should I resort to making an excuse?
Sorry if this is arrogant, I have been on here a year, the last thing I ever talk about are these kind of relationships. Should I or Amy feel guilty for being nice?