I’m unsure of how to go about something that I need to do.
I need to speak with a Priest about multiple issues, one of which is that I think I have scrupulosity. Of course, I should speak with a Priest about that. I intend to do just that, however, I’ve reached a bit of a road block.
It is my understanding that those with scrupulosity are supposed to have complete obedience to their chosen Confessor and Spiritual Guide. However…
I had previously spoken (twice, in fact) with one of the Priests of my parish about questions I have, in life, and related to scripture. One of the things I asked him was, “Outside of Lent, do we Catholics have to avoid eating meat on Fridays?” I had heard that it wasn’t just during Lent that we abstained from meat, but all year. Despite being raised Catholic, we somehow never did this. I guess my mom was never taught to abstain from meat on Friday, though she now recalls that in Catholic School, they never served meat on Fridays. The Priest told me no; that many people do this practice, and take it as a requirement, when in fact, it is not required.
With that answer, I went about as I had always done. But over my time on this website, I see so many people not only saying that the meat abstinence is required (unless, in my case of being a U.S. resident, we substitute it with an equal penance if we eat meat), but also giving links and blocks of text that state it. Now that I think of it, I don’t know where the sources come from, some kind of Canonical Law book or something? Anyway, the point is, if everyone here in CAF is right, and that the meat abstinence (with equal penance substitution for U.S. residents) is required, then that means my Priest told me something that was not correct with the Catholic teachings.
Normally, that would not be a huge issue for me. Yes, Priests should know Catholic Law, but everyone makes mistakes.
However, as a possible scrupulous, it makes me uneasy. If I’m supposed to completely trust him with all my Spiritual decisions, how can I be sure he won’t say something else that is not correct? How do I know what he’s telling me is true? How can I not doubt what he says?
I’m unsure of what to do in this situation. Should I bring it up to him? Will he think I’m trying to correct him? Would that seem condescending? But then I think of the kind of person he is, and I think he would understand. I’m a shy person, so it’s sometimes hard for me to communicate difficult things with others.
Do any of you have any thoughts at all? Even if it isn’t advice, I really appreciate your input. Thank you for taking the time to read this.