Well, first i want to address this - "Jesus died for our sins and as a human we are naturally going to be sinners, no one is perfect and no one will remain without sin."
as humans we are subject to sin by temptation, by the devil, by the influences around us, by our own curiosity...but it is not natural, everything God as created and everything which comes from God is natural, but sin does not come from God, sin is what happens without God,
have you read any of the stories of the saints? there are saints who were sinless from their baptism till their death,
you should read up on them if you haven't, because that will also help you a great deal with understanding chastity and love of God.
"I'm 20 years old and I am a virgin. I am catholic and I love my faith as well as God, Jesus and the Virgin Mary. "
i'm 22, and i can say the exact same thing, but i am proud of the fact that i am a virgin, and it is a treasure that i strongly feel the desire to hold onto, your virginity is something you cannot get back, once it's gone it's gone for eternity, and i feel so drawn to a life of chastity that i am currently discerning about whether God wants me to become a nun or not,
But if God wanted me to get married, i'd be happy with that to,
because it's all about what God wants, not what we want, God knows what is best for us, He knows our true mission and purpose in this life, and we can fulfill that purpose simply by following His commandments.
" I just find it hard to believe that I will remain a virgin until I am married. I know that it is a sin, but why must it wait until marriage why can't it be about love?"
it is all about love, if you know it is a sin, but you don't know why you have to wait till marriage, then it is simple, you just have to know why it is a sin in the first place,
lets start with love, what is love? it's not a feelings first of all, feelings come from love, but love remains no matter what you feel, so it can't be a feeling,
when love is pure, it is completely selfless, God loves us completely, purely, and without any reservation,
true love gives freely and asks nothing in return,
Love is charity, and charity is love, charity is the highest of all the virtues, because charity is the loving of God above all other creatures, and the love of everyone else for the sake of our love for God.
so, out of love for the one you wish to have relations with, would you risk them going to hell? just because you want to experience marital relations?
that is not love, of course...but that is basically how it is, "I love you, so lets sin together and risk going to hell" it is selfish,
"I am just so confused about why God would give us the ability to have this great pleasure but only let us use it for bringing life into this world. I do want children, but I want to experience sex with someone I love before marriage."*
God did not give those pleasures to all of us, He gave it to those who are married, and so when you take the marital pleasures and use them for yourself or use them before marriage, not only are you committing the sin "thou shalt not commit adultery", you are also committing "thou shalt not steal"
remember, as wonderful a feeling as it is, it is still only a feeling, and certainly not worth losing your soul over, or offending God,
it is a passing thing, something you have for a moment and then it is gone, and after that you must face with the reality that you no longer have sanctifying grace, and if you were to die before repenting you would burn in hell...it's simply not worth the risk,
here where you say "but I want to experience sex with someone I love before marriage"
key word here is "I",
if sex was about love, then it would not be for you, if you truly love someone, you do it for them, you want *them *to feel good,
sex can be a great expression of love when it's for the one you love, but when it's done for yourself, it is a very shallow form of love...if it could even be classified as love at all.
and so this comes back to what i said earlier about risking the one you "love" going to hell, if it's just for you, then it is not love at all, and if it is for the one you love, you can hardly call it love when you are letting them commit a mortal sin....
(continued in next post)