Be advised: the post from another board which I quote below–relating to a non-Catholics interpretation of the Song of Songs-- is somewhat graphic and is immoral.
I quote it because I want to be able to respond to his argument by getting some help understanding it.
I’ve heard this before: that the Song of Songs shows that the primary purpose of sex is not procreation, since it doesn’t even mention having children.
But a poster on another board goes further, claiming that it sanctions masturbation, etc.
*So what I am listing here is strictly from the peshat layer. (plain simple meaning) the symbolism is common with other erotic poetry from other cultures in the area in the 1000 bc era.
Unless specified in the text as something else, whenever you see garden or flowers (specifically lilies) it is a reference to female genitals. Myrrh (and occasionally frankincense) refers to the wetness of female arousal. Fountain refers to ejaculation. (also used in Proverbs)
So the “mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense” in SOS 4.16 then would refer to her mons pubis. (so does “bether” in SOS 2.17)
SOS 5.5 says her fingers were dripping with myrrh. masturbation
SOS 5.13 talks about his lips dripping with myrrh. Oral sex on her.
SOS 6.2 “pasture his flock in the gardens and gather lilies” Oral sex on her.
SOS 2.6 and 8.3 “his right hand embrace me” refers to manual stimulation.
SOS 6.11 “orchard of nut trees” referring to his gentials; either oral or manual stimulation on him.*