Hello all. First post here. Need advice on parishes. Here is the back story.
So we are enrolled at a local parish and our children attend the parish school. All was going well. Then something happened related to the sex abuse scandal. Not directly to our family or anyone in the parish! Something in the diocese and I inadvertently found out that our pastor was on the side of the sex abuser, both in his actions and in his direct words to me. I don’t want to write too much more on that, because I don’t want to give away too many identifying details.
Since that day, I can’t physically walk into the church knowing what our pastor thinks about this.
So…we are blessed to live in an area with many parishes within a short distance, so we started going to another local parish for Mass.
Anyway, I loved our first parish in general. There were some things that could be improved, but in general, it is an orthodox parish and we were happy there. The only thing that drove me away is this incident with the pastor. And I can’t seem to move on. I know that I am being delusional to think that I can just switch where we go to Mass and get away from the scandal…I’m sure almost every parish/bishop has been affected somehow.
My main concern are our children, of course. If I was only concerned for myself, I would never go back to our parish. I could attend Mass anywhere and know that I was in the presence. However, it’s not that simple, especially since our children attend the parish school and we don’t intend to change that.
My main concern is…Am I possibly weakening their faith by attending a different parish than the one we attend for school? Even though we haven’t told them why we haven’t been going to Mass there, are they going to pick up on something? Am I saying it is somehow not good enough? I know that, for me, the combination of attending a Catholic school and the parish was so important growing up. I really felt like I was part of a family.
Any thoughts appreciated, thank you for reading this if you got this far.