I hope this is in the correct forum, if not the admins. can move it to the appropriate one.
Here is my dilemma:
I am currently “babysitting” my niece and nephew, (ages 11 and 13 respectively) while their parents are away for an out of state convention for their jobs. I am staying in their home while they are away and have full charge of these kids.
As a preface, my niece and nephew are Catholic and attend a Catholic school, go to Mass regularly, etc. etc. and are being brought up in the faith. They’re good kids and at that “impressionable” age. They live in a typical middle class neighborhood in a good area and have decent neighbors and a strong family orientation prevails…except for ONE particular family.
I don’t know all that much about the family in question except that there is/was a divorce and the father has two teenage daughters from a previous marriage who are 15 and 16 and are currently living in this household…evidently, they just arrived on the scene.
Here’s the problem:
These girls are NOT what my sister and her husband would deem “appropriate friends” or acquanintances for my niece and nephew. They dress like tramps, have filthy mouths, smoke cigarettes, have tattoos, stay out till all hours of the night, and are generally a VERY bad example for the rest of the kids in the neighborhood.
Yesterday, these girls showed up at “our” house in the front yard and were (seemingly) just talking with my niece and nephew. After about 5 minutes of listening to these tramps talk, (I could hear them from the house) I instructed my niece and nephew to come in the house and for the girls to go home.
Their trash talk, as well as the way they were dressed (like cheap hookers) was the impetus for my actions. It’s the “cool” attitude of these girls that irritates me and their total lack of breeding/morals. I explained this to my niece and nephew and they didn’t seem to have a problem with it.
The problem is that these tramps keep coming down and knocking on the door and want to "hang out’ with my niece and nephew. I have told them repeatedly that they are not to come to our house and that they are not welcome in our house, and that they need to stay away.
Now I’m the bad guy. I realize I’m not their parent, but it’s MY responsibility to shield my niece and nephew from the likes of these girls while their parents are away. I know kids that age think it’s “cool” to hang out with “older kids” but as the saying goes, “Not on my watch”.
This is continuing to be a problem because now I have to watch the street every time they go outside for fear they’ll run into these girls. They keep approaching my niece and nephew and don’t seem to get the hint.
These girls are trouble. I haven’t mentioned this to my sister and her husband yet, but will when they return next week. In the meantime, I’m the ogre. I only know a few of the other parents on the street, but not very well. I’m not sure how aware the rest of the parents in the neighborhood are about this situation, but I’m asking for suggestions on how to deal with this in the interim.
Any thoughts ?