My MIL rang yesterday to tell us the she and FIL had a huge arguement about a month ago and are no longer speaking. They have discussed divorce but decided against it for the moment and are still living in the same house. Tomorrow my husband and I are going to visit them for the New Year and will be expected to stay 4 or 5 days.
We are not very surprised this has happened. FIL retired this April and is now home all day every day. They are both difficult people. He is moody, demanding, excessively clean and tidy but also kind-hearted and honest . MIL is lazy, a complete slob, controlling and will lie or sulk to get her own way. ( I still haven’t found her “good” quality but am working on this.) MIL blamed it all on FIL when she called yesterday but DH is finally becoming wise to his mother’s controling behaviour and managed to say very little.
Any advice on how we avoid being pulled into this? I know MIL will expect DH to take her side and if he doesn’t, will blame it all on me. Also, neither of them are talking to DH’s grandmother (mother’s mother). She is in her 70s and lives in a seperate granny-flat in the same house. DH’s older brother lives with them, is not working (again!!!), pays nothing towards household expenses even when working, and has sided with his mother as usual. He doesn’t speak to the grandmother either and doesn’t really get on well with DH.
We are dreading our visit and would like any advice on how to manage this kind of situation. Even if nobdy has any suggestions, can you pray for us. This is very difficult for us, especially DH.